The Importance of Preparation According to Seth Godin
Finishing Well: What We Can Learn from Seth Godin
You need only watch the last minute of the Kentucky Derby to really understand that finishing well can decide everything. Hold back and someone can pass you. Finish incorrectly, and you may get disqualified. Your name is burnished in history. Or lost to obscurity. In horse racing, everything really comes down to the final stretch across the tape.
What about in life?
Seth Godin recently wrote a blog about the concept of finishing well and how it plays out in our life. Writer of 19 best-selling books, prolific podcaster and teacher, Seth Godin is an entrepreneur, internet guru, founder of Squidoo (now Hub Pages) and regular speaker (and Ted Talk giver) on all things media, communications and entrepreneurship. And more.
In his blog on finishing well, he argues that if something is worth doing, not only is it worth doing well, but it’s worth finishing well. He cites the fact that Aretha Franklin died without a clear will as an unfortunate event that causes all sorts of trouble. It should never happen. He argues that if you do something—anything—well, you should also see it through to the finish.
I heartily agree with Godin on this. Ending well is as important as starting well. So let’s look at how this plays out in divorce.
Just as you should have an eye on the end of any job, project or even life, shouldn’t you at least cast a fleeting glance at the end of your marriage? After all, not every marriage is going to end in divorce, but half do.
What Would a Wedding Planner Do?
Most people wouldn’t leave wedding planning to the first entry in Google. They wouldn’t try to wing it themselves—figure out appetizers, seating charts, vows and speeches–without at least doing some research. They certainly wouldn’t assume they knew how to organize the whole thing without at least getting some advice.
And yet that’s often how people approach divorce. They Google. They look on Yelp. They may take the first suggestion for a lawyer from a friend or assume they know how a divorce will go. They may never investigate the broad world of alternative approaches such as collaborative.
Divorce: Resources for Creating a Plan
But for those who do subscribe to the idea of finishing well, it’s nice to know that there are a lot of resources to help you do it. The New York Courts site features lists of resources for finding lawyers, getting the paperwork, and finding support and resources for yourself or your children. They offer a directory for links to information about domestic violence, and other critical issues. Our Westchester Family Law page also offers resources—articles, blogs, videos, podcasts and live events—that can help take you from “considering” to “filing”.
Resources like these are all about making sure you’re prepared to take this next step in your life. Whether you do or not is ultimately your decision. But, as Seth Godin says, “Beginning is magical. So is finishing. We can embrace both.”
If you’re considering divorce but would like to try an approach that might mean a brighter future, call my team to schedule a confidential consultation.