Empowering Families

If you’re feeling really emotional about your divorce but your ex says it’s just a business deal, in some ways, you’re both right.

Divorce is a very complicated untangling of a multitude of relationships. There’s a financial relationship for sure. There’s a legal relationship, there’s a family relationship, a co-parenting relationship, a social relationship. There are so many ways in which you’re entangled and become more entangled as you go through your marriage, and so as part of the divorce process, we need to identify each of those relationships and separate them out.

It’s very common to be talking about the money and to wan into an emotional problem or parenting issue or communication problem because of this untangling relationship that we’re trying to do. All these different yarns and threads are tangled up together and knotted around each other and we need the support of professionals to help the people separate them out, sort them out, and then weave them back together in a relationship in a binuclear family that goes forward sanely, civilly, and cordially as they possibly can.

This is Katherine Miller. Thanks for watching YourTango’s Quickies. Connect with me at yourtango.com/experts/katherine_miller. I’d like to help you negotiate a good divorce. Visit me online at kem-law.com.