Divorce can be really expensive and it can be much more reasonable. It’s really a matter of which process you choose, how well you manage the feelings that come up because everyone has bad feelings in divorce. No one goes down the aisle, says “I do”, planning to get divorced. Nobody does, and so there are a lot of issues that need to be resolved. Some of them are internal issues and some of them are external issues.
One of the things that I think is the most important thing to think about at the beginning of the divorce process is how you want to make those decisions, how you want to get divorced, how you want to end up at the end of the process. Do you want to figure out a way to be friends, to co-parent your children together, or do you want to end up bitter enemies? The more you choose the bitter enemies route, the less value you’re going to get out of the divorce process. It’s going to cost more and you’re going to have a worst result. If you choose a process that allows you to come together, you’re going to get much better value out of the dollars you spend and likely it’s going to be less expensive as well.