Will Mediation Work for Me?
Many people ask me whether mediation will work for them and how they can maximize its effectiveness. I’m Katherine Miller, and I’ve been a divorce attorney and mediator in New York City and New York State for over 30 years. Based on my experience, here are a few key strategies to enhance the likelihood of a successful mediation:
- Approach Mediation as a Problem Solver: Focus on finding solutions together, rather than proving the other party wrong. Even if you’re convinced you’re right, understanding and considering the other person’s perspective is crucial for reaching a resolution. Think of mediation as a collaborative process aimed at solving a problem, not a battle to win.
- Be Respectful: Treat the other party, the mediator, and the mediation process with respect. Be cordial and courteous, do your homework, and stay focused on the task at hand. Respectful behavior fosters a more productive and amicable environment.
- Keep Your Emotions in Check: Managing your emotions can be challenging, especially in high-stress situations like mediation. I understand how difficult it can be, as I experienced it myself during my own divorce. However, working through your feelings outside of the mediation room can help you stay calm, respectful, and in control during the process.
Thanks for listening.