Empowering Families

Is a 50/50 parenting arrangement a good option? Many parents come in wanting and demanding equal time, which can be particularly problematic for those who have had a traditional relationship. Often, one parent—typically the mother—has stayed home to raise the children while the other, usually the father, has worked outside the home. When the working parent demands 50/50 custody, it can feel threatening to the stay-at-home parent, who may struggle to understand what that arrangement truly means.

It’s essential for kids to have regular, meaningful contact with both parents, allowing them to feel their parents’ presence in their lives—not just on alternate weekends or Wednesday nights. In a traditional divorce, we aim for parents to be involved in their children’s lives daily.

When considering 50/50 parenting or any arrangement, we must focus on the children, not ourselves. In my experience, the most painful aspect of divorce is not being with my kids every minute of every day, especially when I walk into their bedroom at night and find them absent. This is the biggest adjustment for any parent during the divorce process.

However, sharing parenting responsibilities can have its silver linings. We need to create a comfortable arrangement primarily for the children’s growth and well-being while also making it manageable for the parents.

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