Empowering Families

When you’re getting divorced, the emotions can often be the hardest part. Fear, anxiety, disappointment, anger, rage—these emotions can swirl around and make you feel disoriented, as if you don’t know which end is up. I’m Katherine Miller, and with over 30 years of experience as a divorce attorney in New York City and New York State, I know firsthand that these emotions are incredibly challenging.

Conventional wisdom often advises setting your emotions aside and treating the divorce as a business deal, as if you could simply ignore your feelings. I’ve discussed this in previous videos. Currently, I’m reading a book called Emotional Agility by Susan David. The book emphasizes the importance of acknowledging and responding to what she terms “negative emotions.”

We all know these negative emotions well. While it’s crucial not to let them control you or dictate your actions, it’s equally important to recognize their significance and the information they provide. I encourage you to reflect on what you’re feeling—what brings you hope and what causes you distress. Understand where these feelings come from and what they reveal about you.

Try to find a way through this process that honors all of your emotions and integrates them into your planning. On my podcast, Divorce Dialogues, I’ve spoken with many guests who offer valuable insights and guidance for people navigating similar challenges. I encourage you to subscribe and listen to Divorce Dialogues, available on the podcast website, divorcedialogues.com, or wherever you listen to podcasts.

Thanks for listening.