Are You Arguing with Your Divorce Attorney?
Are you arguing with your divorce attorney?
It happens more often than you might think. People call this office all the time, wondering why they’re in constant disagreement with their own divorce attorney.
I’m Katherine Miller, and I’ve been a divorce attorney in New York State, New York City, and Connecticut for over 30 years. One major disconnect that often arises between clients (you) and attorneys (me) is this:
You care about what’s happening in your life.
Lawyers care about the law.
For example, you might be deeply concerned about damage to your reputation. But from a legal perspective, unless that damage reaches a level that can be argued in court, it’s often not considered legally relevant.
As attorneys, we may see these concerns as distractions—red herrings that shift focus away from the critical legal issues. Meanwhile, as someone living through the experience, you feel these are the most important aspects of your case.
So, how do you bridge this gap?
Here’s a key solution:
Have an open discussion with your lawyer. Let them know:
“These are the things that really matter to me.”
“Can you help me with this?”
“If not, where can I get the right support?”
If your attorney can’t assist with certain concerns, they should be able to refer you to the right professional—whether it’s a coach, mental health professional, accountant, or someone else who can help.
Of course, it’s crucial to choose the right attorney from the beginning. While some people do switch attorneys mid-process, it’s much easier to find the right fit upfront.
If you need guidance on selecting the right attorney and what questions to ask during an initial consultation, click the link below, and I’ll be happy to send you our guide.
Don’t hesitate to reach out via email at info@miller-law.com or call us at (914) 685-9805. Thanks for listening!