Marriage & Sexual Incompatibility
In my role as a divorce attorney, I often hear about issues of sexual incompatibility. I’m Katherine Miller, and I’ve been working in New York City and Westchester County for over 30 years. Sexual incompatibility, along with infidelity, can indeed be significant factors leading to divorce, but it doesn’t have to be the end of the road. There are options to address these challenges:
- Work on the Issue: Sexual incompatibility is a difficult topic to discuss, even with long-term partners. Research indicates that men, in particular, may struggle to address sexual issues openly. Understanding the root cause of the incompatibility—whether it’s differences in libido, foreplay preferences, or comfort levels—is crucial. Schedule a dedicated time to discuss the issue in a calm environment, avoiding the bedroom to reduce tension and pressure. Consider options like vacations or consulting a sex therapist or regular therapist, as communication problems often translate into sexual issues.
- Explore Alternatives: If traditional methods don’t resolve the issue, you might consider non-traditional arrangements such as an open relationship. This concept, popularized in the 1970s, involves staying married while allowing for sexual relationships outside the marriage. It’s not for everyone but can be an option for some couples.
- Consider Divorce: If other avenues fail and sexual compatibility remains an issue, divorce might be the most suitable solution. Everyone deserves a fulfilling intimate relationship if that’s important to them.
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