Empowering Families

In my last video, I discussed the markers of a high conflict divorce, such as intense emotions and communication breakdowns. I also mentioned that mediation can be an effective process for those dealing with high conflict situations. Here’s why:

I’m Katherine Miller, and I’ve been a mediator and divorce lawyer in New York City and New York State for over 30 years. These insights come from my extensive experience in both mediation and divorce.

So, why is mediation particularly useful for high conflict divorces? Mediation provides a structured, neutral environment where both parties can engage in essential conversations to move through the divorce process. However, choosing the right mediator is crucial. Here are key skills to look for:

1. Emotion Management: The mediator must be adept at handling intense emotions without being overwhelmed or wanting to leave the room. They need to be skilled at de-escalating tensions and refocusing the conversation on the issues that need resolution. While it’s important to address emotions, the mediator should also keep the discussion productive and on track.
2. Effective Communication Strategies: Mediation is necessary because parties often cannot resolve their issues independently. Therefore, the mediator must possess strategies for effective communication to help both parties navigate and resolve their conflicts.
3. Creativity and Realism: The mediator should bring a blend of creativity and realism to the process. They need to offer innovative solutions while remaining practical and grounded in reality.