Empowering Families

Let’s face it—talking about a prenup is hard. No one wants to do it, and it can feel like planning an exit strategy before the marriage has even begun. But there are many good reasons to have the conversation.

I’m Katherine Miller, and I’ve been a divorce and family lawyer for over 30 years. Here’s what I’ve learned about divorce: most people get divorced due to a failure in communication. Poor communication leads to misunderstandings, which create mistrust, and mistrust eventually breeds contempt. Contempt, as I’ve seen, is the fast track to divorce.

The concept of the “romantic prenup” is about getting ahead of these difficult conversations. It helps you understand how you and your partner each relate to money, what your personal conflict patterns are, and how you handle conflict together. You might already feel familiar with conflict in your relationship, but this approach allows you to see how you’re both wired to resolve disputes and manage finances.

When you bring both of your conflict styles into the conversation, is it likely to result in a productive or a difficult discussion? If you’re like most people, it can be tough to navigate. The romantic prenup process is designed to give you a structured opportunity to discuss money, savings, credit, working, taking time off to raise children, planning for education, and all the other challenges that marriages face.

We then help you create a plan for managing these issues throughout your marriage, and, in the event of a divorce, what that process would look like. All marriages end, whether by divorce or death, even long, happy ones. So, planning for both scenarios within the context of a healthy marriage is key. The goal is to support your relationship, giving you a roadmap for resolving conflicts when they arise.

Thanks for listening.