Empowering Families

Many people wonder what to do with sentimental mementos during a divorce. I’m Katherine Miller, and with over 30 years of experience as a divorce attorney in New York City and Westchester County, I’ve seen many clients grapple with this issue. Here’s a useful approach for handling those cherished items:

1. Make a List: Start by listing everything you can think of—photos, kids’ art, clothes, wedding dresses, jewelry, and any other mementos.
2. Evaluate Each Item: For each item, ask yourself:
   • Does it make me happy? If it brings you joy, consider keeping it.
   • Would it make my kids happy? Be realistic about whether your children would truly value or want the item. If they’re old enough, ask them directly. If not, consider their perspective or hold onto it until you can ask them.
3. Consider Usefulness: If an item makes you happy, think about whether you’ll actually use it or if it will just collect dust. Does it add value to your life? Can it be integrated into your new life or your kids’ lives in a meaningful way?
4. Avoid Burdening Your Kids: Be cautious about putting the responsibility on your children to keep or value these items. They should not feel obligated to hold onto mementos from the past.
5. Let Go of What Doesn’t Serve You: If an item doesn’t bring joy, isn’t useful, and your children don’t want it, consider letting it go. It can be freeing to release items that no longer serve a purpose in your life.

Thanks for listening!