Start From The End
When you’re getting divorced, the best strategy is to start with the end in mind, but it’s crucial not to sabotage the beginning. I’m Katherine Miller, a divorce attorney with over 30 years of experience in New York City and New York State. So, what do I mean by starting with the end in mind?
The key is to envision the best possible outcome. Think about what your life will look like five years from now—how you’ll feel, where you’ll live, and what your parenting relationship will be like. Then, narrow that focus to three years, two years, and even one year from now. By considering where you ultimately want to go, you can set yourself on a path toward achieving the best possible outcome.
“Don’t blow the beginning” means avoiding decisions driven by emotional impulses, like the need to express anger or assert your truth. While these feelings are valid, starting from an emotional place can lead you down a path that diverges from your long-term goals. Instead, focus on the end result and make decisions that will guide you toward that desired future, rather than reacting to immediate emotions.
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