Should I Wait To Divorce After The Holidays Or Do It Now?

The festive season is upon us, a time of year when we gather with family and friends to share joy, give thanks, and reflect. But for some, it’s a time of deep introspection and life-changing decisions, especially those contemplating divorce. The question then becomes: Should I wait to initiate the divorce after the holidays, or take the step now?  There is no one best answer but here are six things to consider when making the best decision for yourself.

1. Consider the Emotional Toll: Holidays, despite their joyful exterior, can be incredibly emotional. Mixed feelings of sadness, regret, and nostalgia can intensify during this period. Introducing the idea of divorce amidst these emotions may cast a pall over what is traditionally a season of joy for many families. Waiting until after might help prevent additional stress and sadness for everyone involved.
2. The Children’s Perspective: If children are involved, their emotional wellbeing is paramount. The holidays are often associated with family, love, and togetherness for children. Knowing that their parents are about to split can deeply affect their holiday memories. It’s essential to weigh the benefits of waiting against the potential harm to their holiday spirit.
3. The Practical Side: The holidays are hectic. With all the shopping, cooking, and social engagements, adding the complexities of a divorce might feel overwhelming. From a purely practical standpoint, waiting until after the holidays might allow both parties to handle the process with clearer minds and schedules.
4. Consider the Current Dynamics: If the relationship is highly volatile, it might be healthier and safer to separate sooner rather than later, irrespective of the holiday season. In situations involving emotional or physical abuse, your safety and well-being are paramount.
5. The Desire for a Fresh Start: Starting the new year with a clear direction and purpose can be invigorating for many. If initiating the divorce process now aligns with your desire for a fresh start in the new year, it may be the right choice for you.
6. Seeking Advice: Before making any decision, it’s advisable to consult with a therapist or counselor who can offer a more personalized perspective on your unique situation. They can provide clarity and guidance during such a tumultuous time.

Divorce, no matter when it’s initiated, is never easy. If you’re contemplating this life-altering decision around the holidays, consider the emotional, practical, and individual dynamics at play. Above all, prioritize your well-being and that of your loved ones. Whether you decide to wait or move forward now, trust that with time, support, and self-care, you’ll navigate this challenging phase with resilience and grace. We are here to help as well.

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