Collaborative Divorce
The Benefits of Choosing Collaborative Divorce Over Traditional Methods
Collaborative Divorce, DivorceWhat Is Collaborative Divorce? Collaborative Divorce is an innovative, client-centered approach to resolving disputes outside of the courtroom. Unlike traditional...
Read this BlogWhat’s Involved in Divorce?
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce, MediationWhat Should You Know When Deciding to Divorce There is a lot that goes into a divorce, and it can...
Read this BlogAnger Gets You Through Divorce
Collaborative Divorce, DivorceUsing Anger to Fuel Productivity in Divorce Divorce is a transition and that means that the emotions you feel at...
Read this BlogCounterintuitive Lessons from Divorce
Collaborative DivorceThe cliché of divorce is the cheating husband, the destructive crazed ex wife who takes revenge—on your property, cars or...
Read this BlogUsing Compassion to Heal Feelings of Guilt
Collaborative DivorceI recently sat down with Michael Schiesser and Neelama Eyres, Co-authors of Divorced with Love, and co-founders of Inner Journey Institute. As a divorced couple who co-parent their...
Read this BlogDivorced with Love Part Two: Finding a Way Forward
Collaborative DivorceLast week I began a series of conversations with Michael Schiesser and Neelama Eyres, co-authors of Divorced with Love, and co-founders of Inner Journey Institute, an organization...
Read this BlogDivorced with Love Part One: A Unique (and Loving) Split
Collaborative DivorceA loving divorce—one that foregrounds dignity and compassion—may sound like a fantasy. We just don’t see that very often in...
Read this BlogHabits for a Better and More Fulfilling Relationship
Collaborative DivorceSometimes it’s easier to criticize what a partner is doing wrong rather than focus on what’s right. It can become...
Read this BlogWhat to Expect in Collaborative Divorce: a Step-by-Step Guide
Collaborative Divorce, DivorceThe collaborative law approach to divorce promises a less-contentious and ultimately kinder, gentler way to dissolve a marriage. But what...
Read this BlogCollaborative Divorce: Assembling the Best Team
Collaborative Divorce, DivorceCollaborative divorce is a non-adversarial approach to ending a marriage and was created by Stuart Webb. The process is nothing like...
Read this BlogStuart Webb Interview Part Two: The Origin of Collaborative Divorce
Collaborative Divorce, DivorceI previously discussed the interview I did with Stuart Webb, creator of “collaborative law”. As a divorce litigator, Stuart saw many...
Read this BlogStuart Webb: The Origin of Collaborative Divorce
Collaborative Divorce, DivorceMore and more people are wondering, what is collaborative divorce? A simple Amazon search for books on “collaborative divorce” yields hundreds of...
Read this BlogUsing Collaborative Divorce with High-Conflict People
Collaborative DivorceCollaborative divorce is a negotiated divorce settlement, made without ever stepping foot in a courtroom. Each spouse has a lawyer,...
Read this BlogChoosing an Attorney for Your Collaborative Divorce
Collaborative DivorceBefore choosing an attorney for your collaborative divorce, you should understand the collaborative divorce process. Instead of traditionally hostile and...
Read this BlogClarifying Your Needs in a Negotiation: the Power of the BATNA
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce, Divorce mediationYou feel vulnerable. You don’t totally trust the other party in a negotiation. What can you do to make the...
Read this Blog3 Important Things to Look for in a Mediator
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce, Divorce mediation{3:30 minutes to read} You’re looking for a mediator? Below are 3 important things to look for in your search.
Read this Blog3 Reasons to Be Nice to Your Spouse During Your Divorce
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{2:40 minutes to read} Reason #1: You catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar. You are never going...
Read this BlogWho Do YOU Want to Be in Your Divorce?
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{3:30 minutes to read} Michele Lowrance, in her book The Good Karma Divorce, recommends finding and defining the person you want...
Read this BlogShould I Mediate My Divorce?
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce[2:15 minutes to read} Should you mediate your divorce? People often wonder whether or not they should try to...
Read this BlogConflict Resolution: Change Your Perspective
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce mediationFind some objectivity in order to translate conflict into problem solving. I have an old and dear friend who I...
Read this BlogThe 4th Step on Your Road to Divorce
Collaborative Divorce, DivorceIn my last blog post, we talked about the first three steps to divorce: commit to a process; gather information...
Read this BlogWhen You’re Getting Divorced, Feelings Matter!
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{2:30 minutes to read} Of course, feelings matter! Despite this reality, the way divorce discussions are framed by the law...
Read this BlogThe First 3 Steps on Your Road to Divorce
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{5:40 minutes to read} I’m in the process of writing a book in which I outline seven steps to getting...
Read this BlogFAQs on Collaborative: Legal Separation vs. Divorce and High Net Worth Divorces
Collaborative DivorceCollaborative Divorce has many finer points that clients and students often ask about. These FAQs posts clarify some of these...
Read this BlogFAQs on Collaborative: How to Make Collaborative Sessions More Productive for You
Collaborative Divorce, DivorceCollaborative Divorce has many finer points that clients and students often ask about. These FAQs posts clarify some of these...
Read this BlogFAQs on Collaborative: Child Support
Collaborative DivorceCollaborative Divorce has many finer points that clients and students often ask about. These FAQs posts clarify some of these...
Read this BlogFAQs on Collaborative: How to Help Your Children Through Divorce
Collaborative DivorceCollaborative Divorce has many finer points that clients and students often ask about. These FAQs posts clarify some of these...
Read this BlogHow Can the 3 Levels of Conflict Improve Problem-Solving?
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{4:00 minutes to read} As part of the mediation training we teach at The Center for Understanding in Conflict, we...
Read this BlogFAQs on Collaborative: Talking to your Children and Scheduling their Time
Collaborative DivorceCollaborative Divorce has many finer points that clients and students often ask about. These FAQs posts clarify some of these...
Read this BlogIs Divorce Court Dehumanizing?
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{2:30 minutes to read} Oftentimes, stereotypically, we think divorcing couples—both the person who decides to divorce and the person who...
Read this BlogAre You Jumping to Conclusions?
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{3:15 minutes to read} It’s a well-known fact that people living together for a long period of time take each...
Read this BlogGoing Beyond Anxiety and Positional Thinking During a Divorce
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{3:31 minutes to read} When people are divorcing, they are often filled with intense anxiety. They feel compelled to solve...
Read this BlogThe Paradoxical Theory of Change: Can You Defy Expectations?
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{2:25 minutes to read} The paradoxical theory of change is an idea that comes out of Gestalt therapy. According to the...
Read this Blog3 Dynamics That Will Destroy a Relationship
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{4:00 minutes to read} It is not unusual for married couples to develop unhealthy ways of settling disputes between them....
Read this BlogCreating & Maintaining Calm During Conflict Resolution: Establish Process Groundwork Early On
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{3:20 minutes to read} Contrary to popular opinion, the fastest divorce is not necessarily the best. In order to successfully...
Read this BlogConfused, Scared, and Under Pressure Is No Way to Divorce
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{3:19 minutes to read} Toward the end of any negotiation, a flurry of activity swarms the lives of all the...
Read this BlogSilence the Greek Chorus: The Importance of Decreasing Anxiety & Increasing Trusted Advisors
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{3:00 minutes to read} It’s interesting to me that people, in general, offer up advice — some invited, most not...
Read this BlogAn Open Letter to United Airlines: Stop Asking for TMI
Collaborative Divorce, DivorceOscar Munoz President and CEO United Airlines, Inc. PO Box 06649 Chicago, IL 60606-0649 Dear Mr. Munoz: I am writing...
Read this BlogValentine’s Day: A Symbol of Love, or Marriage … or Both?
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{3:15 minutes to read} As the romanticized holiday of Valentine’s Day approaches, I took an informal survey amongst my colleagues,...
Read this BlogDon’t Just Survive the Holidays, Enjoy Them! (A Pocket Guide for Divorcees)
Collaborative Divorce{4:00 minutes to read} The holidays are approaching and, in lieu of excitement, profound realization sets in for many newly...
Read this BlogThe Key to Successfully Working with High-Conflict Couples: Stick to the Basics!
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{4:30 minutes to read} The heat is rising. Tension is mounting. A crossroad emerges in the mediation session, and it’s...
Read this BlogCan Communicating Your Needs Save You from a Divorce?
Collaborative Divorce{3:40 minutes to read} As a divorce attorney, I am often asked: What leads people to divorce? Is it problems...
Read this BlogThe Art of Research: How Do You Choose Your Divorce Attorney?
Collaborative Divorce{3:20 minutes to read} I’ve noticed a contrast between the way people choose an attorney compared to how they may...
Read this BlogThe Storm Out: What to Do When It Happens.
Collaborative Divorce{2:00 minutes to read} In my previous article, I wrote about the dynamics of what happens when a person storms...
Read this BlogDIVORCE ISN’T JUST ABOUT THE MONEY
Collaborative DivorceDivorce isn’t just about the money – yet the money represents many underlying issues related to the significant transition from...
Read this Blog9 OUT OF 10 MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS RECOMMEND NOT LITIGATING FOR THEIR CLIENTS FACING DIVORCE
Collaborative DivorceOkay, I didn’t actually facilitate the survey, but if I did the statistics would probably be higher. Every mental health...
Read this BlogConflict: Are you Right or Wrong?
Collaborative Divorce{4:30 minutes to read} “If both people are right, why does it feel so wrong?” Conflict is hard; family conflict...
Read this BlogUNTANGLING THE “WHAT IFS” OF YOUR DIVORCE AGREEMENT
Collaborative DivorceOne of the things collaborative professionals and mediators do is help people think through all of the elements of the...
Read this BlogGORILLAS DON’T MAKE GOOD LAWYERS
Collaborative DivorceClients often believe that when they hire a divorce attorney, they need someone to fight for them; to be tough;...
Read this BlogNAVIGATING THE COLLABORATIVE PROCESS
Collaborative DivorceSometimes people wonder how the interdisciplinary nature of the collaborative process works, and what role each of the professionals has...
Read this BlogWHO DOES COLLABORATIVE DIVORCE WORK FOR?
Collaborative DivorceMany couples going through a separation seem to think that because there is so much conflict in their relationship, a...
Read this BlogTHE VALUE OF NEUTRAL FINANCIAL PROFESSIONALS IN DIVORCE
Collaborative Divorce“It’s never just about the money.” That is a common phrase amongst professionals who work with people in conflict. Money...
Read this BlogWHEN THINGS SEEM IMPOSSIBLE
Collaborative DivorceSometimes when people in conflict are negotiating to try to find a solution they come to a point when things...
Read this BlogHOW TO CHOOSE A DIVORCE LAWYER
Collaborative DivorceHave you ever thought about how you choose a doctor, lawyer, therapist or even a dentist? Of course we all...
Read this BlogWHAT MATTERS MORE: EMPATHY VS. SYMPATHY?
Collaborative Divorce{3:30 minutes to read} I believe in understanding. So much so, that I work and teach in the “Understanding-Based Model”...
Read this BlogCan Mediation and Collaborative Law Work for High-Net-Worth Divorces?
Collaborative DivorceThe other week, I attended an interesting talk on financial considerations for high-net-worth women going through a divorce. The talk...
Read this BlogCompelling Evidence That Collaborative Divorce Works
Collaborative Divorce, DivorceDivorce is inevitably an emotional journey, but it doesn’t have to be a hostile one. Collaborative divorce is a way...
Read this BlogFinding Your Voice: Strategies to Help You Speak Up for Yourself During Divorce Mediation
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce, Divorce mediationThe Miller Law Group is pleased to provide this guest post by Meghan Freed, Esq., co-founder of award-winning Connecticut divorce...
Read this BlogUnderstanding ‘Stuckness’ in Marriage Through the Lens of Collaborative Divorce
Collaborative Divorce, DivorceBeing “stuck” in a marriage evokes an image of sinking slowly into quicksand. No matter how much you struggle, there’s...
Read this BlogNavigating the Path Together: The Power of Collaborative Divorce in 2023
Collaborative Divorce, DivorceDivorce has become an inevitable part of many journeys in the complex landscape of modern relationships. Exploring evolving approaches to...
Read this Blog8 Advantages Of Collaborative Divorce
Collaborative DivorceOnce you know what defines the process, it’s important to know why you might want to choose it over more...
Read this BlogTrue Empathy: What Feeling Another’s Pain Requires
Collaborative Divorce, Preparing for divorce“Empathy” is a popular—and often misused—term. What people usually mean when they talk about “having empathy” is “kindness” or perhaps...
Read this BlogThe Storm Out: What Is It, Why We Do It, What To Do
Collaborative Divorce, MediationWhat Is A Storm Out? Sometimes in divorce negotiations, whether in mediation or collaborative sessions, someone gets upset or feels...
Read this BlogPROTECTING CHILDREN IN DIVORCE
Children in Divorce, Collaborative Divorce, DivorceI had been a divorce litigator for 10 years when I faced divorce myself. At the time, I was spending...
Read this BlogDivorce Financial Planning
Collaborative DivorcePeople getting divorced generally do not want to destroy their lives. In fact, people who chose divorce often do so...
Read this BlogYOUR DIVORCE DOES NOT DEFINE YOU
Collaborative DivorceEven when we are hurt, angry, sad and confused many of us try to find an honest and authentic voice...
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