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Protecting Your Credit Score During and After Divorce in New York
DivorceDivorce deeply impacts your financial independence and creditworthiness. To avoid issues renting apartments or securing mortgages, you must take proactive...
Read this BlogDivorce Roadblocks: Five Mindset Shifts That Can Change Everything
DivorceThe thought patterns running through your mind during divorce—the need to “win,” the fixation on fairness, the wait for perfect...
Read this BlogFinancial Preparation Checklist: 30 Days Before Filing for Divorce in New York
DivorceThe month before filing for divorce is your strategic window to gather critical financial documentation, secure your independence, and position...
Read this BlogThe Divorce Mindset: Why Emotional Intelligence, Not Anger, Wins the Future
Divorce, Preparing for divorceIntroduction: Divorce Is More Than a Legal Ending Divorce is one of life’s most emotional and life-changing transitions. It marks...
Read this BlogMarriage Contracts & Undue Influence: What are your next steps?
Divorce, Prenups & Postnups, Preparing for divorceMarriage contracts serve as an essential legal tool to outline expectations, responsibilities, and protections for both parties in a marital...
Read this BlogHow to Handle Your Children’s Emotional Reactions to Divorce
Children, Children in Divorce, DivorceDivorce is an emotional upheaval for everyone involved, but the impact it has on children can be particularly profound. While...
Read this BlogLegal Parentage Under the Child‑Parent Security Act (CPSA)
Children, Children in Divorce, Custody, DivorceLegal Parentage Under the Child‑Parent Security Act (CPSA) The landscape of family formation has changed significantly with the advancement of...
Read this BlogDoes It Matter Who Files for Divorce First?
Divorce, Preparing for divorceDivorce is never easy. Whether it’s amicable or contentious, the decision to legally end a marriage involves emotional, financial, and...
Read this BlogThe Benefits of Choosing Collaborative Divorce Over Traditional Methods
Collaborative Divorce, DivorceWhat Is Collaborative Divorce? Collaborative Divorce is an innovative, client-centered approach to resolving disputes outside of the courtroom. Unlike traditional...
Read this BlogCan You Get a Divorce in New York Without Your Spouse Signing
DivorceFacing divorce can be overwhelming on its own. But what happens when your spouse refuses to sign the papers or...
Read this BlogHow to Handle Your Children’s Emotional Reactions to Divorce
Children, DivorceDivorce is an emotional upheaval for everyone involved, but the impact it has on children can be particularly profound....
Read this BlogBest NY Prenup Lawyer – Why a Prenuptial Agreement is the Smart Move
Divorce, Prenups & PostnupsMarriage is a significant milestone, one that brings together two lives emotionally, legally, and financially. While most couples focus on...
Read this BlogWhat Does “High Asset” Mean In Relation To My Divorce
Divorce, High Asset Divorce, High Net Worth DivorceDivorce is never easy, but when large sums of money, investments, and valuable property are involved, the process becomes...
Read this BlogWhat to Expect When You File for Divorce: A Comprehensive Overview
DivorceFiling for divorce can be overwhelming. Our expert New York divorce lawyers guide you through each step, ensuring a smoother...
Read this BlogWhy Do So Many People Get Divorced in January?
DivorceIf you‘ve been considering divorce, you may have heard January referred to as “Divorce Month“ and wondered how much truth...
Read this BlogFacing the Holidays Right After a Divorce or Separation
DivorceThe holidays can be difficult for anyone, but they can be especially tough for people who have recently gone through...
Read this BlogIdeas for Handling Child-Related Costs and Finances When Divorcing
DivorceDeciding how to handle child-related costs and expenses can be one of the most complicated–and contentious–parts of a divorce settlement....
Read this BlogSecrets to Creative Solutions for Divorcing Couples
DivorceTaking a cookie-cutter approach to reach an out-of-court divorce settlement isn’t a good idea. Every divorcing person has unique needs,...
Read this BlogFour Issues That Arise About The House In Divorce
DivorceOne of the most painful aspects of divorce is considering giving up or selling the family home. It’s no surprise...
Read this BlogWhat’s Involved in Divorce?
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce, MediationWhat Should You Know When Deciding to Divorce There is a lot that goes into a divorce, and it can...
Read this BlogHow to Handle Your First Valentine’s Day after Divorce
DivorceYou might have been feeling emotionally strong about your divorce until you see that date on the calendar–Valentine’s Day. Then...
Read this BlogIs Divorce Part of the New You?
DivorceJanuary is a time for reevaluation. Of course, there is the New Year’s resolution thing but even if you are...
Read this BlogDeciding to Divorce: When is it Enough?
DivorceDeciding whether to end your marriage can be one of the hardest decisions of your life. While we all enter...
Read this BlogKeeping Conflict Low During A Divorce
DivorceWhen contemplating a divorce or separation, most parents start out determined always to do what’s best for the children. But...
Read this BlogThe Best Decisions for Your Children During Divorce
DivorceWhen beginning the process of a divorce or separation, most of us are determined to put our children’s best interests...
Read this BlogPreventing High Conflict from Impacting Children During a Divorce
DivorcePreventing High Conflict from Impacting Children During a Divorce During a divorce, many couples face an emotional roller coaster. While...
Read this BlogUse Your Divorce for Positive Transformation
DivorceA Positive Transformation Divorce is a painful process, no question. Even if you know with all your heart that the...
Read this BlogShift #3: Story Shift– Change Your Divorce Story
DivorceWhat is your divorce story? Can you change your divorce story? You know…the story you tell yourself about why your...
Read this BlogShift #2: Intention Shift – Decide How You Will Be in Divorce
DivorceFew people realize how much their thoughts about divorce impact their divorce experience. The truth is, your thoughts about how...
Read this BlogShift #1: Culture Shift – Transform Your Relationship To Divorce
DivorceTransforming Your Divorce In our society, we view divorce as an inevitably negative event or experience. When we hear people...
Read this BlogThe Bezos and Gates Friendly Divorces: Is This The New Normal?
DivorceEnding a marriage can be really tough. It means decoupling finances, divvying up parenting time, and determining key issues like...
Read this BlogWhat to Do When You’re Boiling Over with Divorce-Related Rage
Divorce, Divorce mediation, Preparing for divorceIt’s normal to feel a sense of rage at one point or another in your divorce journey. You might feel...
Read this BlogTools and Resources to Teach You Mindfulness in the Context of your Divorce
Divorce, Divorce mediation, Preparing for divorceIf you’ve been following our blog series with family therapist and mindfulness teacher Joree Rose, you’ll have seen how mindfulness...
Read this BlogHow to Avoid Taking Other People’s Words, Actions, and Emotions Personally
Divorce, Divorce mediationWhen going through a divorce, you might feel particularly sensitive about how others perceive you. As you make life-changing decisions...
Read this BlogHow to Drill Down to Understand the Root Cause of Triggering Emotions
DivorceThe divorce journey can feel like walking through an emotional minefield–you never know what triggering emotions may cause an explosion…or...
Read this BlogBuilding a Mindfulness Practice When Life and Divorce Keep Getting in the Way
DivorceMany people recognize the value of taking a moment and a deep breath, and getting our emotions under control when...
Read this BlogHow Stress and Mindfulness Impact Your Body and Your Brain
DivorceYour heart beats faster. Your breath becomes short. Your muscles grow tense. When you’re stressed or anxious, your body goes...
Read this BlogThe Power Of Responding Proactively To Events In Your Divorce
DivorceDuring a divorce, it’s easy for emotions to get out of hand. Hurt, sadness, guilt, or fear can cause you...
Read this BlogThe Power of Naming Emotions: How Labeling Your Feelings Can Bring Peace
DivorceDivorce can feel like one emotional blow after another. First, there’s the pain of realizing that your marriage isn’t going...
Read this BlogExplore the Power of Meditation and Mindfulness in Your Divorce
DivorceDivorce is one of life’s most stressful events, second only to the death of a spouse. Even if the split...
Read this BlogWhy is January Called Divorce Month?
DivorceMarie Claire Dorking says “Hold onto your wedding rings”, the first Monday back to work after the holiday season has...
Read this BlogKim Kardashian and Kayne West Divorce: Tips for Divorcing a Spouse with Bipolar Disorder
DivorceAfter months of speculation, it seems certain that celebrity couple Kim Kardashian and Kayne West are seeking a divorce. Like...
Read this BlogShift #7: Shift On – Enjoy Your Life Do-Over After Divorce
Divorce, Divorce with childrenAs we said in the initial post of this series, divorce isn’t just an ending, but a beginning. Even if...
Read this BlogShift #6: Kids are Shifters Too – Helping Your Children Thrive Post-Divorce
DivorceBeing a parent adds an extra layer of emotional complexity to divorce. You have to grapple with your children’s feelings...
Read this BlogShift #4: Shift on Your Ex – Find Peace in Your Divorce
DivorceYou can find peace in your divorce. Our society often relishes tales of nastiness and pain. Gossip magazines feed off...
Read this BlogShift #5: Shift the Conversation – Help Loved Ones to Support You in Divorce
DivorceFriends and family can be a wonderful source of support and comfort when you divorce. But sometimes, their love and...
Read this BlogChris Voss and the FBI Approach to Divorce
Divorce, Divorce mediationWhen you’re looking up the most stressful jobs in the world, a hostage negotiator such as Chris Voss is right...
Read this BlogGiving Your Jerk Ex Enough but Not Too Much Space in Divorce
DivorceParenting Challenges During and After Divorce With nearly half of all marriages ending in divorce, it’s important to consider your...
Read this BlogStepping Back Before Re-engaging in Divorce
DivorceThe “Box Step” of Communication in Divorce “Dance is communication, and so the great challenge is to speak clearly, beautifully...
Read this BlogSteps to Save Your Kids in Divorce
DivorceSpecial Tips for Protecting your Kids During Divorce Reports on the effects of divorce on adult children find that “even...
Read this BlogParenting Smart Boundaries without Lies or Insults
DivorceSmart Boundaries: Keeping Children out of the Middle They say good fences make good neighbors. The truth is, good fences...
Read this BlogAnger Gets You Through Divorce
Collaborative Divorce, DivorceUsing Anger to Fuel Productivity in Divorce Divorce is a transition and that means that the emotions you feel at...
Read this BlogForgiveness After Divorce
DivorceGiving Yourself the Gift of Forgiveness “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” — Mahatma...
Read this BlogConflict: Finding The True You Through Divorce
DivorceConflict as Crucible: Finding Your True Self in Divorce This week I sat down with Anne-Louise DePalo and discussed how...
Read this BlogCollaborative Divorce is the Smart Choice
DivorceCollaborative Divorce: Capitalizing on Specialization for Better Results If you’ve been to the doctor recently and paused for a moment...
Read this BlogHappiness After Divorce
DivorceBecoming “Fully Alive” Through Divorce For some people it’s the first gray hair, the death of an old pet or...
Read this BlogThere’s No Such Thing As “One-Size-Fits-All” Divorce
DivorceAnne-Louise DePalo and the Danger of the “One-Size-Fits-All” Divorce Divorce is usually a costly affair. Separate from the emotional cost...
Read this BlogStaying Confident & Owning Your Look
DivorceStaying Confident & Owning Your Style in Post-Divorce Dating Divorce can be a confidence-shattering experience. You may feel ashamed. You...
Read this BlogPost-Menopause Make-Over
DivorceGetting Out There! A Post-Divorce Body & Wardrobe Have you ever looked in the mirror and thought, “who is that?” It’s...
Read this BlogDeanna Coyle: “Do the Research” And Other Words of Wisdom
DivorceWe treat emotional recovery differently from physical recovery—or anything else in our lives, for that matter. You wouldn’t just walk...
Read this BlogWhen to Learn from Other People’s Experience—and When Not To
DivorceIn the dating world, there’s a relatively new term for an age-old practice of dating and disappearing: ghosting. It might...
Read this BlogVesta: A New Way to Create Community
DivorceA recent headline delivered some sobering and surprising news: Loneliness ‘Time Bomb’ Warning Fueled by Baby Boomer Divorces. The study...
Read this BlogYou’re Not In This Alone: The Empowering Force of Friendship During Divorce
DivorceWalk down the street and you’ll see people so lost in reading their phones that they almost step out into...
Read this BlogThe Destructive Power of Isolation and How to Avoid It
Divorce“The worst cruelty that can be inflicted on a human being is isolation.” – Sukarno With busy schedules and a...
Read this BlogStriking Gold with Divorce Support
DivorceDeana Coyle, Founder of Vesta: From Isolation to Inspiration One of the biggest and most painful side-effects of divorce is...
Read this BlogLiza Caldwell and SAS for Women
DivorceLiza Caldwell and SAS for Women Divorce isn’t a decision about marriage. It’s a decision about who you are, what...
Read this BlogThe Toughest Divorce Cases
DivorceSpecial Challenges to Moving Through the Stages of Divorce “Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” –...
Read this BlogFinding Your Support System During Divorce
DivorceGetting Support Throughout the Four Stages of Divorce There’s a lot of talk in popular culture about “meeting friends where...
Read this BlogStage Four of Divorce: The New Normal
DivorceLiza Caldwell: Divorce Stage Four or the “New Normal” Catharsis is a beautiful emergence into purity that’s impossible without struggle. It’s...
Read this BlogStage Two of Divorce: Hitting the Trigger
DivorceLiza Caldwell: Divorce Stage Two or “Hitting the Trigger” Philosophers, scientists and theologians have long debated the psychology of how...
Read this BlogStage Three of Divorce: Something is Changing
DivorceLiza Caldwell: Divorce Stage Three or “Something Is Changing” In relay running, the third leg is often the wildcard. This is...
Read this BlogStage One of Divorce: Something is Wrong
DivorceLiza Caldwell: Divorce Stage One or “Something is Wrong” Awareness is a tricky thing. Philosophically speaking, it’s what makes humans...
Read this BlogThe Importance of Preparation According to Seth Godin
Divorce, Preparing for divorceFinishing Well: What We Can Learn from Seth Godin You need only watch the last minute of the Kentucky Derby...
Read this BlogFour Stages of Divorce with Liza Caldwell
DivorceLiza Caldwell: Stages of Divorce and How to Move Through Them The only constant in life is change. – Heraclitus...
Read this BlogMetacommunication: Strategies during Divorce
DivorceWhen we get divorced, our communication needs change like a passing storm. Sometimes we need to get rage out. Sometimes...
Read this BlogSave Yourself: Vital Psychotherapy During Divorce
DivorcePsychotherapy After Divorce: Why You Should Do It “If you ever find yourself in the wrong story, leave.” ― Mo Willems, Goldilocks and...
Read this BlogClinging to Core Values to Save Yourself During Divorce
DivorceIdentifying and Living by Your Core Values It doesn’t take long to realize that your children are watching everything you...
Read this BlogDivorce is a Threat to our Public Health
DivorceDivorce as Threat to Public Health With a divorce rate hovering around half of all marriages, it’s safe to say...
Read this BlogDivorce Expert Deborah Tannen: An Overview
DivorceCommunication is the classic double-edged sword. Not enough communication makes people’s desires, dislikes and fears mysterious and can lay a...
Read this BlogBeware the Greek Chorus!
DivorceIn classic drama, the Greek Chorus weighs in on opinions about the hero’s actions. It’s a group, but they speak as one....
Read this BlogShort ‘n’ Sweet Blogs Teach Truisms About Divorce
DivorceThe Front Lines: Stories & Lessons from EmpoweredWomansDivorce.com There’s no way around it; divorce isn’t easy. We all lean on...
Read this BlogFighting Misinformation in the Decision to Divorce
DivorceWhen Women Must Consider When Contemplating Divorce Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim. ― Nora Ephron,...
Read this BlogDr. Jill Murray Dives into the Threats That Cause Paralyzing Fear in Divorce
DivorceBreaking out of Paralyzing Fear in Divorce “You’ll never see your children again.” “You’ll be destitute.” “I’m going to ruin...
Read this BlogFinancial Ruin for Women
DivorceWhen Marriage isn’t A Fair Financial Partnership The statistics have made headlines in recent years: women lose major earning potential...
Read this BlogUnderstanding the Head and the Heart: The Legal and Emotional Entanglement of Divorce
Divorce, Divorce mediationDivorce: The Intersection of the Legal and the Emotional Divorce rattles even the most confident person’s sense of herself. It’s...
Read this BlogDivorce Psychology and Legal Experts Dr. Murray and Dodge Dive Into The Hardest Divorce Issues
DivorceDivorce Dream Team: Dr. Jill Murray and Adam Dodge We all know our emotions can affect everything we do. We’re...
Read this BlogThe Danger of Blame & Guilt in Divorce
DivorceDivorce, in our culture, is seldom blameless. Even in “no-fault” cases, there’s always someone who didn’t do enough, let themselves...
Read this BlogThe Healing the Heart Protocol
DivorceI recently sat down with Michael Schiesser and Neelama Eyres, Co-authors of Divorced with Love, and co-founders of Inner Journey Institute. They write from the unique perspective...
Read this BlogYour Brain During Divorce: 5 Situations the Brain is Always Tracking
DivorceIn this post, we explore Dr. David Rock’s ideas about how the brain influences us during divorce and how we...
Read this BlogYour Brain During Divorce: Can you Change Another Person’s Behavior?
DivorceIn examining brain science, divorce, and negotiation with Dr. David Rock, we’ve tackled how the brain reacts to an emotional...
Read this BlogYour Brain During Divorce: How Timing & Goals Can Help Avoid Emotional Reactions
DivorceDr. David Rock, author of Your Brain at Work, has examined the relationship between emotion and your ability to think...
Read this BlogYour Brain During Divorce: What Gets in the Way of Rational Analysis?
DivorceWe’ve been speaking with Dr. David Rock, author of the bestseller Your Brain at Work. In this post, we discuss...
Read this BlogYour Brain During Divorce: How to Have Constructive Interactions During an Emotional Event
DivorceIn our series with Dr. David Rock, we’ve covered how our brain inextricably intertwines logic and emotion, which can make...
Read this BlogYour Brain During Divorce: Misconceptions About How the Brain Processes Emotions
DivorceIn this series of articles, we’ve been sharing the theories of Dr. David Rock, author of the bestseller, Your Brain...
Read this BlogYour Brain During Divorce: Why Is It So Hard to Avoid Reacting Emotionally?
DivorceIn this series, we’ve been speaking with Dr. David Rock, the director of The NeuroLeadership Institute, a global initiative bringing...
Read this BlogYour Brain During Divorce: How the Brain Influences Us
DivorceLook for the entire series of articles on our conversation with Dr. David Rock, author of the bestseller, Your Brain...
Read this BlogWhat to Expect in Collaborative Divorce: a Step-by-Step Guide
Collaborative Divorce, DivorceThe collaborative law approach to divorce promises a less-contentious and ultimately kinder, gentler way to dissolve a marriage. But what...
Read this BlogStuart Webb Interview Part Two: The Origin of Collaborative Divorce
Collaborative Divorce, DivorceI previously discussed the interview I did with Stuart Webb, creator of “collaborative law”. As a divorce litigator, Stuart saw many...
Read this BlogCollaborative Divorce: Assembling the Best Team
Collaborative Divorce, DivorceCollaborative divorce is a non-adversarial approach to ending a marriage and was created by Stuart Webb. The process is nothing like...
Read this BlogStuart Webb: The Origin of Collaborative Divorce
Collaborative Divorce, DivorceMore and more people are wondering, what is collaborative divorce? A simple Amazon search for books on “collaborative divorce” yields hundreds of...
Read this BlogSplitopia: Writing Exercises for Thriving After Divorce
DivorceWhen I spoke with Wendy Paris, author of Splitopia: Dispatches from Today’s Good Divorce and How to Part Well, she...
Read this BlogThriving After Divorce: the Case for It
DivorceIt can be easy to think of divorce as an “end”. We even use the terms “ended their marriage” or...
Read this BlogSelf-Empowering Habits That Stick
DivorceThe best way to grow self-empowerment, like anything, is to have it happen automatically, without having to think about it....
Read this BlogGetting Through Divorce with Self-Compassion and Mindfulness
DivorceIn our culture, it’s popular to practice tough love—with ourselves. We practice “self-discipline”, like to “push ourselves”, and build up...
Read this BlogWhat Conventional Wisdom Gets WRONG about Divorce
DivorceWith 40 to 50 percent of marriages ending in divorce in the US, many of us have first-hand experience with...
Read this BlogWhat Conventional Wisdom Gets RIGHT about Divorce
DivorceIf you’re starting down the road to divorce, you’re no doubt bombarded by advice—often full of clichés and predictable stereotypes....
Read this BlogThe Hard Lessons of 2018
DivorceAs the end of the year rolls around and the calendar gets thin, it’s time to reflect on the lessons...
Read this BlogCrafting a “Good Divorce” Against the Odds
DivorceImagining a happy marriage is easy. Just flip on the Hallmark Channel and you’ll see cozy homes, good health, stable...
Read this BlogNegative Misconceptions about Divorce in America
DivorceWhen spouses seek divorce today, they enjoy a level of freedom and flexibility that wasn’t available even a decade ago....
Read this BlogEnding Your Marriage: Coming to Terms with Being Hurt by an Affair
DivorceInfidelity is a leading cause of divorce. Whether the unfaithful spouse moves on to be with the new love interest...
Read this BlogCounterintuitive Ideas to Bear the Unbearable in Divorce
DivorceWhen you’re in the middle of a divorce, or even just considering one, life can get heavy. So heavy, in...
Read this BlogSurviving Divorce: Acceptance Does Not Equal Forgiveness
DivorceAcceptance does not equal forgiveness. Forgiveness, according to many, is key to liberating yourself from the feelings of resentment that...
Read this BlogResourceful (and Non-Resourceful) Strategies for Coping with Betrayal
DivorceWhen you’ve been betrayed by a spouse, it’s easy—and justifiable—to be angry. Our culture is full of songs, movies and...
Read this BlogForgiveness After Divorce: When and Why to Aim for It—and What It Really Takes
DivorceAccording to the American Psychological Associate, between 40 and 50 percent of marriages end in divorce. That statistic can fuel...
Read this BlogCommon Divorce Myths
DivorceDivorce is a difficult and highly emotional process for everyone involved. When you are going through a divorce, everyone around...
Read this BlogStart to Finish: Divorcing a High-Conflict Spouse
DivorceIn the last few posts, we’ve addressed some of the particular challenges of divorcing a high-conflict spouse. Since it may...
Read this BlogRespect and Empathy: Critical Components of Non-Adversarial Dispute Resolution
DivorceDigging deep within yourself to find empathy and understanding when you’re under attack can feel impossible. Why should you be...
Read this BlogWhy a High-Conflict Divorce is NOT What You Need
DivorceWe all know somebody who has gone through a horrific divorce that has dragged out for years, drained both parties’...
Read this BlogTax Law Changes Impact High Net Worth Divorces
Divorce, High Asset DivorceStatistically speaking, individuals in the United States who have more money do not divorce as often as those with less....
Read this BlogDivorce and Your Family Business
DivorceSpouses who have operated a family business throughout their marriage face a particularly difficult situation when their marital relationship deteriorates....
Read this BlogBoost Your Self-Care with 10 Inspirational Quotations
DivorceOn tough days—and there are always tough days—you may need a quick reminder that you’re on the right path with...
Read this BlogClarifying Your Needs in a Negotiation: the Power of the BATNA
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce, Divorce mediationYou feel vulnerable. You don’t totally trust the other party in a negotiation. What can you do to make the...
Read this BlogThings to Avoid During Divorce
DivorceGoing from being a married couple to being adversaries can be extremely difficult and emotionally draining. What can make matters...
Read this BlogLegal Separation: Is it the Right Option for You?
Divorce, Preparing for divorceWhen you think of terms that relate to divorce, sometimes the phrase “legal separation” comes to mind. While many people...
Read this BlogDivorce and Social Security Benefits
Divorce, Divorce mediation, Preparing for divorceDivorce is never easy no matter what age a person may be. It is often a lengthy and challenging process...
Read this BlogWhat is My Child’s Divorce Story?
Divorce{2:24 minutes to read} We all know that divorce is hard on kids. My clients truly worry about their children...
Read this BlogCan Lawyers Be Peacemakers?
Divorce, Divorce mediation{4:30 minutes to read} Oftentimes, in our modern culture, we think of lawyers as advocates, champions or warriors, but that...
Read this Blog3 Important Things to Look for in a Mediator
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce, Divorce mediation{3:30 minutes to read} You’re looking for a mediator? Below are 3 important things to look for in your search.
Read this Blog3 Reasons to Be Nice to Your Spouse During Your Divorce
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{2:40 minutes to read} Reason #1: You catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar. You are never going...
Read this BlogThe Best Course of Action for High Conflict Couples
DivorceBill Eddy’s Approach Recently, I had an interview with Bill Eddy on my radio show Divorce Dialogues. Bill is a...
Read this BlogWho Do YOU Want to Be in Your Divorce?
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{3:30 minutes to read} Michele Lowrance, in her book The Good Karma Divorce, recommends finding and defining the person you want...
Read this BlogShould I Mediate My Divorce?
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce[2:15 minutes to read} Should you mediate your divorce? People often wonder whether or not they should try to...
Read this BlogHow To Forgive
DivorceI recently conducted a radio interview (linked at the bottom of the post) with Janis Abrahms Spring, a board-certified clinical...
Read this BlogNational Divorce Month?
DivorceI got a call a couple of years ago from a local magazine. According to them, May was National Divorce...
Read this BlogNo Winners in Divorce
DivorceThere are no winners in divorce. Statistically speaking, divorcing couples are overwhelmingly likely to settle their “case” before a judge...
Read this BlogWhen Things Seem Impossible
DivorceSometimes when people in conflict are negotiating to try to find a solution they come to a point when things...
Read this BlogWhy Litigating May Not be the Choice for You
Divorce9 OUT OF 10 MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS RECOMMEND NOT LITIGATING FOR THEIR CLIENTS FACING DIVORCE Okay, I didn’t actually facilitate...
Read this BlogThe 4th Step on Your Road to Divorce
Collaborative Divorce, DivorceIn my last blog post, we talked about the first three steps to divorce: commit to a process; gather information...
Read this BlogDivorcing Mr. Mom
DivorceTraditional assumptions about gender roles in marriages may be weakening in today’s marriages but they are going strong in divorce....
Read this BlogWhat I Wish People Learned About Marriage and Divorce in High School
DivorceWhen I was a little girl, I sometimes looked in the mirror and imagined who I might marry and what...
Read this BlogHappy or Right?
DivorceIn the Prologue to her book The Dance of Connection, Harriet Lerner, Ph.D. (http://www.harrietlerner.com/) writes of a story she had...
Read this BlogSurviving Divorce and Thriving
DivorceDivorce is a painful experience. People going through divorce feel vulnerable and they very often feel shame. Think about the...
Read this BlogWhen You’re Getting Divorced, Feelings Matter!
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{2:30 minutes to read} Of course, feelings matter! Despite this reality, the way divorce discussions are framed by the law...
Read this BlogWhat Makes a Divorce?
DivorceWhen you’re living together but plan on separating from your spouse, there really is no change in your legal status....
Read this BlogThe First 3 Steps on Your Road to Divorce
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{5:40 minutes to read} I’m in the process of writing a book in which I outline seven steps to getting...
Read this BlogTaking Care of Yourself While Going Through a Divorce
DivorceDivorce can impact health and well being, increasing the risk of weight gain or loss, sleeplessness, cardiac issues, depression and...
Read this BlogRunning Your Life Around Divorce: Your Landscape of Commitments
DivorceDivorce creates temporary uncertainty. Human beings need stability to concentrate and be effective. Neuropsychological research has shown that short-term memory...
Read this BlogFAQs on Collaborative: How to Make Collaborative Sessions More Productive for You
Collaborative Divorce, DivorceCollaborative Divorce has many finer points that clients and students often ask about. These FAQs posts clarify some of these...
Read this BlogHow Can the 3 Levels of Conflict Improve Problem-Solving?
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{4:00 minutes to read} As part of the mediation training we teach at The Center for Understanding in Conflict, we...
Read this BlogInterest-Based Bargaining: How To Get What You Want (and Give What You Don’t)
DivorceDuring traditional negotiations, most people default to what’s known as “position-based” bargaining. Prior to meeting or early during the discussions,...
Read this BlogIs Divorce Court Dehumanizing?
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{2:30 minutes to read} Oftentimes, stereotypically, we think divorcing couples—both the person who decides to divorce and the person who...
Read this BlogAre You Jumping to Conclusions?
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{3:15 minutes to read} It’s a well-known fact that people living together for a long period of time take each...
Read this BlogGoing Beyond Anxiety and Positional Thinking During a Divorce
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{3:31 minutes to read} When people are divorcing, they are often filled with intense anxiety. They feel compelled to solve...
Read this BlogThe Paradoxical Theory of Change: Can You Defy Expectations?
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{2:25 minutes to read} The paradoxical theory of change is an idea that comes out of Gestalt therapy. According to the...
Read this Blog3 Dynamics That Will Destroy a Relationship
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{4:00 minutes to read} It is not unusual for married couples to develop unhealthy ways of settling disputes between them....
Read this BlogCreating & Maintaining Calm During Conflict Resolution: Establish Process Groundwork Early On
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{3:20 minutes to read} Contrary to popular opinion, the fastest divorce is not necessarily the best. In order to successfully...
Read this BlogConfused, Scared, and Under Pressure Is No Way to Divorce
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{3:19 minutes to read} Toward the end of any negotiation, a flurry of activity swarms the lives of all the...
Read this BlogSilence the Greek Chorus: The Importance of Decreasing Anxiety & Increasing Trusted Advisors
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{3:00 minutes to read} It’s interesting to me that people, in general, offer up advice — some invited, most not...
Read this BlogAn Open Letter to United Airlines: Stop Asking for TMI
Collaborative Divorce, DivorceOscar Munoz President and CEO United Airlines, Inc. PO Box 06649 Chicago, IL 60606-0649 Dear Mr. Munoz: I am writing...
Read this BlogValentine’s Day: A Symbol of Love, or Marriage … or Both?
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{3:15 minutes to read} As the romanticized holiday of Valentine’s Day approaches, I took an informal survey amongst my colleagues,...
Read this BlogThe Key to Successfully Working with High-Conflict Couples: Stick to the Basics!
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{4:30 minutes to read} The heat is rising. Tension is mounting. A crossroad emerges in the mediation session, and it’s...
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Divorce{3:00 minutes to read} Am I correct in understanding that this is what you meant? vs. Is THAT what you...
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Divorce{3:35 minutes to read} Have you ever read a book that you found so incredibly helpful that you immediately had...
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Divorce{2:10 minutes to read} As a divorce lawyer, I often hear people’s stories of infidelity, whether or not they are pursuing...
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DivorceEven in the best of cases, going through a divorce is going to be difficult. There are a lot of...
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DivorceShould the law support what is important to us in our lives or should we resolve conflicts based on case...
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DivorceWhen I graduated from college, I moved to Washington to live with my boyfriend. I decided it wasn’t going to...
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DivorceIn New York, 97% of divorce cases are settled before a judge makes a decision after a trial. That’s a...
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DivorcePeople’s stories are so incredible. Their lives are overflowing with drama, with poignant moments, with scary and wonderful things, with...
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DivorceWhen going through a divorce, you have a unique opportunity to craft the rest of your life – to write...
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DivorceToday was a big day for same-sex marriage. The Supreme Court issued its decision in a case called United States...
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DivorceA Divorce Resource interview with Sara Stanich, Certified Financial Planner and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst. Sara takes us through the...
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DivorceChristmas is often the hardest time for divorced parents. Especially for the newly separated, it can be agonizing to be...
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DivorceI am a dog lover. I have had dogs my entire adult life and I love them so it was...
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DivorceThe “Best Divorce Ever”…from a Child’s Perspective With the divorce rate hovering between 40 and 50 percent of marriages—and higher...
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DivorceThese days it is increasingly common for couples to decide to live separately without starting the divorce process. Over time,...
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DivorceIf you are dividing retirement assets in your divorce, it’s critical to obtain a Qualified Domestic Relations Order (QDRO) before...
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DivorceA pension can be one of the most significant assets in a divorce. Even if only one spouse earned the...
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DivorceFinancial matters are a concern among virtually all divorcing couples. Most people worry about how their lives will change on...
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Child Support, Children in Divorce, Divorce, Divorce with childrenIf you’re a parent in New York struggling under the weight of high child support payments, you’re not alone. Throughout...
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DivorceDivorce can bring on a host of emotions, from relief to frustration to bittersweet happiness. Sometimes these emotions can barrel...
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Divorce“The unhappy person resents it when you try to cheer him up, because that means he has to stop dwelling...
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DivorceGoing through a divorce is a trying process for everyone involved. When a partner in a relationship has a psychiatric...
Read this BlogDivorce Financial Disaster
DivorceWhen (if Ever) is “Cost-Effective Divorce” Possible? Imagine this scenario: after years of marriage, kids and a mortgage, a couple...
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Collaborative Divorce, DivorceDivorce is inevitably an emotional journey, but it doesn’t have to be a hostile one. Collaborative divorce is a way...
Read this BlogProperty Division During a New York and Connecticut Divorce
Divorce, High Asset DivorceMarriage is a financial partnership in which both spouses contribute to the whole rather than the individual. Regardless of what...
Read this BlogShould I Wait To Divorce After The Holidays Or Do It Now?
Children in Divorce, Divorce, HolidaysThe festive season is upon us, a time of year when we gather with family and friends to share joy,...
Read this BlogDivorce and Your Estate Plan
DivorceWhen people marry they often make preparations which include taking out insurance policies, making health care and financial directives, drafting...
Read this BlogHolding On To Your Horses: Navigating Equine Assets in Divorce
Animals in Divorce, DivorceDivorce proceedings are complex and fraught with emotional and financial challenges, and when horses are part of the marital assets,...
Read this BlogTips On How To Survive Divorce During The Holiday Season
Divorce, HolidaysNavigating the holiday season amidst a divorce can feel like trying to dance gracefully on a tightrope — balancing emotions,...
Read this BlogFinding Your Voice: Strategies to Help You Speak Up for Yourself During Divorce Mediation
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce, Divorce mediationThe Miller Law Group is pleased to provide this guest post by Meghan Freed, Esq., co-founder of award-winning Connecticut divorce...
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DivorceBy Joy A. Dryer, PhD. Giving thanks on Thanksgiving can be a challenge when you are divorced. You may be...
Read this BlogWhat Will Get You “Cancelled” in Divorce? Don’t Do These 3 Divorce No-Nos.
Divorce, Divorce mediation, High Asset DivorceMaintaining a civil relationship with your spouse during divorce can be a real challenge, but it is worth it. Being...
Read this BlogUnderstanding ‘Stuckness’ in Marriage Through the Lens of Collaborative Divorce
Collaborative Divorce, DivorceBeing “stuck” in a marriage evokes an image of sinking slowly into quicksand. No matter how much you struggle, there’s...
Read this BlogNavigating the Path Together: The Power of Collaborative Divorce in 2023
Collaborative Divorce, DivorceDivorce has become an inevitable part of many journeys in the complex landscape of modern relationships. Exploring evolving approaches to...
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Divorce, Preparing for divorceVisitation rights are one of the most critical issues for any couple going through a divorce. The initial divorce, child...
Read this BlogThe Intersection Of Estate Planning And Divorce
Divorce, Prenups & PostnupsThink through the impact of your divorce on your estate plan, so that the two pieces work seamlessly together, instead...
Read this BlogDivorce After a Long Marriage: How to Rebuild Your Life
DivorceYou stayed with your spouse far longer than you should have, but you‘ve finally pulled the plug and gotten divorced....
Read this BlogWhat Is Divorce Coaching And How Can It Help?
DivorceHarriet Lerner writes in The Dance of Connection, “Perhaps nothing leaves us more vulnerable than the threat of relationship loss....
Read this BlogConflict Resolution: Change Your Perspective
Divorce, Divorce mediationFind some objectivity to translate conflict into problem-solving. I have a dear old friend who I value for her willingness...
Read this BlogMother And Daughter Relationship During Divorce
Children in Divorce, DivorceThe mother and daughter relationship is unique. There’s a special bond forged through a lifetime of advice, companionship, strength, and...
Read this BlogWe Are Thinking About Divorce, Can I Move Out?
Divorce, Preparing for divorceMove Out in Divorce “My wife wants me to move out.” We hear this sentence frequently. Oftentimes, the spouse says...
Read this BlogActions As Evidence: How Your Threats and Insults Can Cost you Custody
Custody, Divorce, Divorce with children, Family CourtActions As Evidence: Shifting Your Mindset in Divorce Divorce can be disorienting. Things you thought you knew about your spouse...
Read this BlogDivorce After An Affair
Adultery, DivorceI frequently meet with new clients shortly after they or their spouses have revealed or discovered an affair. This is...
Read this BlogDivorce When The Woman Is The Breadwinner
Divorce, High Asset DivorceDoes It Make A Difference If The Woman Is The Breadwinner? It’s human nature to want to call money “yours”...
Read this BlogThreats As Evidence In Divorce
DivorceThe Right Way to Deal with Legal Threats As Evidence In Divorce “I was never ruined but twice—once when I...
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Children in Divorce, Collaborative Divorce, DivorceI had been a divorce litigator for 10 years when I faced divorce myself. At the time, I was spending...
Read this BlogHow to Move on After Divorce
DivorcePeople in the process of divorce find themselves at the intersection of what was and what will be. That intersection...
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Divorce, Reproductive TechnologyFamilies are built in a variety of wondrous ways. When your family-building journey involves assisted reproductive technology, surrogates, gestational carriers,...
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Divorce, Post-Divorce, Preparing for divorceAfter a divorce, everything changes — even your estate planning needs. As part of finalizing matters and moving forward with...
Read this BlogCalculating Spousal Maintenance in Westchester
DivorceWhen a couple goes through a divorce, it can have a significant economic impact on both spouses, and it can...
Read this BlogRecap: Interview with Divorce Expert Deborah Tannen
DivorceKatherine sat down with renowned professor, author and expert Dr. Deborah Tannen. She is the University Professor and Professor of Linguistics...
Read this BlogLove & Loss (and Divorce) Stories with Some Truth
Divorce“All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” ― Leo Tolstoy , Anna Karenina” Drama—in literature,...
Read this BlogThe Pleasure and Pitfalls of Sharing Divorce Talk with Sisters and Friends
Divorce“A sister can be seen as someone who is both ourselves and very much not ourselves—a special kind of double.”...
Read this BlogIdentifying—and Using—Your Conversational Style
DivorceIt’s fun to take online quizzes, learn our personality type, figure out what your true calling is, who your friends...
Read this BlogWhy’s It SO HARD for People to Finish Divorce?
Divorce, Divorce mediation{5:00 minutes to read} One thing that is a very well known professional phenomenon is that, when people get toward...
Read this BlogHow a collaborative divorce can save couples money
DivorceOn behalf of Katherine Miller Non-adversarial approach can help avoid costly litigation Although collaborative divorce has been around for a...
Read this BlogCultivating Emotional Intelligence: Not Me vs. You but Me and You
DivorceIntense emotional conflict often fuels the problems that lead to divorce, and divorce itself challenges even the most emotionally even-keeled...
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