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Can You Change Alimony After Your New York Divorce Is Final?
Video TranscriptsLife does not stand still after divorce. Jobs are lost, health changes, and circumstances shift in ways no one could...
Read this BlogUnderstanding the Three Types of Alimony in New York
Video TranscriptsWhen couples in Westchester and New York City face divorce, one of the most common concerns involves spousal support. Whether...
Read this BlogPet Custody in New York Divorce: How Courts Decide Who Gets the Family Pet
Animals in DivorceFor many New York families, pets are far more than property—they are cherished companions who become integral members of our...
Read this BlogHow to Prepare for Divorce: What New York Families Need to Know
Video TranscriptsDivorce is one of the most significant transitions a person can experience. It is not just about ending arguments or...
Read this BlogCommon Divorce Mistakes New York Families Should Avoid
Video TranscriptsDivorce is one of the most challenging experiences a person can go through. Emotions run high, decisions feel urgent, and...
Read this BlogWhat to Include in Your Parenting Plan: A Comprehensive Guide for New York Families
Video TranscriptsWhen parents divorce or separate, one of the most important documents they will create is a parenting plan. This agreement...
Read this BlogWarning Signs Your Marriage May Be Headed for Divorce: What New York Couples Should Know
Video TranscriptsNo one enters a marriage expecting it to end. Yet for many couples in New York, certain patterns emerge over...
Read this BlogDivorce Roadblocks: Five Mindset Shifts That Can Change Everything
DivorceThe thought patterns running through your mind during divorce—the need to “win,” the fixation on fairness, the wait for perfect...
Read this BlogTaking Small Steps to Rebuild Your Life After Divorce in New York
Video TranscriptsThe end of a marriage doesn’t just mean the end of a legal relationship. It represents the conclusion of a...
Read this BlogRefocusing Your Identity After Divorce: From “We” to “Me” in New York
Video TranscriptsDivorce is often discussed primarily in legal and financial terms: how assets get divided, what custody arrangements look like, how...
Read this BlogWhat Nobody Tells You About Divorce: The Real Changes You’ll Face in New York
Video TranscriptsWhen you’re considering divorce or just beginning the process, most information focuses on the legal mechanics: how to file, what...
Read this BlogDivorce for Business Owners in New York: Understanding Valuation, Distribution, and Buyout Options
Video TranscriptsIf you own a small or medium-sized business and you’re facing divorce, you’re probably worried about what’s going to happen...
Read this BlogFinancial Preparation Checklist: 30 Days Before Filing for Divorce in New York
DivorceThe month before filing for divorce is your strategic window to gather critical financial documentation, secure your independence, and position...
Read this BlogUnderstanding Child Support in New York: Calculation, Modification, and Enforcement
Video TranscriptsChild support is one of the most important financial considerations in any divorce or separation involving children. Understanding how New...
Read this BlogThe Financial Impact of Discovery: Why Evidence-Gathering Can Double Your Divorce Costs in Litigation
Preparing for divorceWhen you choose to litigate your divorce in New York, the discovery process—which is where both sides formally request documents...
Read this BlogThe Divorce Mindset: Why Emotional Intelligence, Not Anger, Wins the Future
Divorce, Preparing for divorceIntroduction: Divorce Is More Than a Legal Ending Divorce is one of life’s most emotional and life-changing transitions. It marks...
Read this BlogMarriage Contracts & Undue Influence: What are your next steps?
Divorce, Prenups & Postnups, Preparing for divorceMarriage contracts serve as an essential legal tool to outline expectations, responsibilities, and protections for both parties in a marital...
Read this BlogHow to Handle Your Children’s Emotional Reactions to Divorce
Children, Children in Divorce, DivorceDivorce is an emotional upheaval for everyone involved, but the impact it has on children can be particularly profound. While...
Read this BlogLegal Parentage Under the Child‑Parent Security Act (CPSA)
Children, Children in Divorce, Custody, DivorceLegal Parentage Under the Child‑Parent Security Act (CPSA) The landscape of family formation has changed significantly with the advancement of...
Read this BlogDoes It Matter Who Files for Divorce First?
Divorce, Preparing for divorceDivorce is never easy. Whether it’s amicable or contentious, the decision to legally end a marriage involves emotional, financial, and...
Read this BlogThe Benefits of Choosing Collaborative Divorce Over Traditional Methods
Collaborative Divorce, DivorceWhat Is Collaborative Divorce? Collaborative Divorce is an innovative, client-centered approach to resolving disputes outside of the courtroom. Unlike traditional...
Read this BlogCan You Get a Divorce in New York Without Your Spouse Signing
DivorceFacing divorce can be overwhelming on its own. But what happens when your spouse refuses to sign the papers or...
Read this BlogHow to Handle Your Children’s Emotional Reactions to Divorce
Children, DivorceDivorce is an emotional upheaval for everyone involved, but the impact it has on children can be particularly profound....
Read this BlogBest NY Prenup Lawyer – Why a Prenuptial Agreement is the Smart Move
Divorce, Prenups & PostnupsMarriage is a significant milestone, one that brings together two lives emotionally, legally, and financially. While most couples focus on...
Read this BlogWhat Does “High Asset” Mean In Relation To My Divorce
Divorce, High Asset Divorce, High Net Worth DivorceDivorce is never easy, but when large sums of money, investments, and valuable property are involved, the process becomes...
Read this BlogEstate Planning Strategies for Family Home Ownership Transfer
Divorce mediationHow to Use Estate Planning for Family Home Ownership Transfer Estate planning plays a critical role in transferring home...
Read this BlogSafeguarding Your Business During Marital Challenges
Divorce mediationYour Business and Divorce: Effective Protection Strategies Divorce can introduce significant challenges into both personal lives and business interests....
Read this BlogWhat to Expect When You File for Divorce: A Comprehensive Overview
DivorceFiling for divorce can be overwhelming. Our expert New York divorce lawyers guide you through each step, ensuring a smoother...
Read this BlogWhy Choose Divorce Mediation? Explore Its Benefits
Divorce mediationUnlock the advantages of divorce mediation to ease conflict and save time. Choose legal mediation for a smoother, cost-effective divorce...
Read this BlogKey Considerations for Divorcing With a Child
Divorce mediationFinding the right family court lawyer in New York is crucial. Get essential tips on choosing the best legal assistance...
Read this BlogBenefits of Prenuptial Agreements in Relationship
Divorce mediationStrengthen your relationship with a prenuptial agreement in New York. Learn how legal guidance can protect your assets and ensure...
Read this BlogHow a Peaceful Divorce Process Promotes Healing and Growth
Divorce mediationCollaborative divorce offers a supportive path to healing and personal growth. Experience respectful mediation to navigate your divorce journey with...
Read this BlogWhy Do So Many People Get Divorced in January?
DivorceIf you‘ve been considering divorce, you may have heard January referred to as “Divorce Month“ and wondered how much truth...
Read this BlogFacing the Holidays Right After a Divorce or Separation
DivorceThe holidays can be difficult for anyone, but they can be especially tough for people who have recently gone through...
Read this BlogDividing School Expenses During Divorce
Children in Divorce, CoparentingDividing Up School Expenses Being in financial limbo can sometimes be the most stressful part of separation and divorce. You...
Read this BlogMaking Child Care Decisions During Divorce
Children in Divorce, CoparentingDivorce and Childcare: Who Hires the Sitter and Who Pays the Sitter It’s that time of year. Fall is in...
Read this BlogMultiple Kids, Multiple Schools: Keeping Things Straight After a Divorce
CoparentingJuggling two or more kids at multiple schools can be difficult for any family. But the task becomes even more...
Read this BlogIdeas for Handling Child-Related Costs and Finances When Divorcing
DivorceDeciding how to handle child-related costs and expenses can be one of the most complicated–and contentious–parts of a divorce settlement....
Read this BlogSecrets to Creative Solutions for Divorcing Couples
DivorceTaking a cookie-cutter approach to reach an out-of-court divorce settlement isn’t a good idea. Every divorcing person has unique needs,...
Read this Blog7 Tips for Parenting With A Narcissist – Part II
Family CourtParenting with a narcissist is complicated. Some actions as criticizing the narcissistic parent to the children will increase the lack...
Read this BlogFour Issues That Arise About The House In Divorce
DivorceOne of the most painful aspects of divorce is considering giving up or selling the family home. It’s no surprise...
Read this Blog7 Tips for Parenting With A Narcissist – Part I
Family CourtParenting with a narcissist seems like an impossibility. Truthfully you’re not really going to be parenting with them, it’s more...
Read this BlogThe Science of Making the Decision to Divorce
Preparing for divorceNothing is more personal than the decision to divorce. No one else can tell you when the moment is right....
Read this BlogPopular Dating Apps and Sites for Divorced People
Post-DivorceAfter getting divorced, it can be hard to put yourself back out there, especially if it’s been a decade or...
Read this BlogCoping Strategies When Considering Divorce
Preparing for divorceIf you’re deeply unhappy in your marriage but aren’t ready to take the next step, you’ll need to find coping...
Read this Blog4 Questions to Ask When Deciding to Divorce
Preparing for divorceAs a divorce lawyer, it’s not unusual for people to come to our office multiple times before finally deciding to...
Read this BlogWhat’s Involved in Divorce?
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce, MediationWhat Should You Know When Deciding to Divorce There is a lot that goes into a divorce, and it can...
Read this BlogHow to Handle Your First Valentine’s Day after Divorce
DivorceYou might have been feeling emotionally strong about your divorce until you see that date on the calendar–Valentine’s Day. Then...
Read this BlogIs Divorce Part of the New You?
DivorceJanuary is a time for reevaluation. Of course, there is the New Year’s resolution thing but even if you are...
Read this BlogVisitation and Co-parenting After Divorce
Family CourtOne of the most difficult parts of coparenting can be navigating visitation after divorce and parenting time. Often one parent...
Read this BlogDeciding to Divorce: When is it Enough?
DivorceDeciding whether to end your marriage can be one of the hardest decisions of your life. While we all enter...
Read this BlogSetting Agendas for Your Kids with Visitation and Co-parenting
Family CourtWhen you’re embarking on a separation or divorce, one of the most emotional parts of the process can be creating...
Read this BlogChallenging Coparenting Times: Holidays & Visitation
Family CourtBeing divorced during the holidays can be challenging for you and your kids. Holiday visitation during divorce can often raise...
Read this BlogKeeping Conflict Low During A Divorce
DivorceWhen contemplating a divorce or separation, most parents start out determined always to do what’s best for the children. But...
Read this BlogThe Best Decisions for Your Children During Divorce
DivorceWhen beginning the process of a divorce or separation, most of us are determined to put our children’s best interests...
Read this BlogPreventing High Conflict from Impacting Children During a Divorce
DivorcePreventing High Conflict from Impacting Children During a Divorce During a divorce, many couples face an emotional roller coaster. While...
Read this BlogManaging Logistics after Divorce
Post-DivorceIt’s done. You’ve moved out of your marital home and are living without a partner for the first time in...
Read this BlogHow to Bring Calm to Your Home if Your Kids Take Opposing Sides in Divorce –and Your Hostile Ex is No Help
Family CourtWhen parents are getting divorced, the children may take sides with one or the other, even if you’ve tried to...
Read this BlogUse Your Divorce for Positive Transformation
DivorceA Positive Transformation Divorce is a painful process, no question. Even if you know with all your heart that the...
Read this BlogShift #3: Story Shift– Change Your Divorce Story
DivorceWhat is your divorce story? Can you change your divorce story? You know…the story you tell yourself about why your...
Read this BlogShift #2: Intention Shift – Decide How You Will Be in Divorce
DivorceFew people realize how much their thoughts about divorce impact their divorce experience. The truth is, your thoughts about how...
Read this BlogShift #1: Culture Shift – Transform Your Relationship To Divorce
DivorceTransforming Your Divorce In our society, we view divorce as an inevitably negative event or experience. When we hear people...
Read this BlogWhat if You Win Child Custody, but Your Child Wants to Live With Your Former Spouse?
Family CourtAsk most anyone going through the divorce process, and they will tell you: child custody issues are at the top...
Read this BlogHow Hard is it to Modify a Co-Parenting Agreement?
Family CourtHow Hard is it to Modify A Co-Parenting Arrangement? Co-parenting arrangements work well until they don’t. A substantial change in...
Read this BlogThe Bezos and Gates Friendly Divorces: Is This The New Normal?
DivorceEnding a marriage can be really tough. It means decoupling finances, divvying up parenting time, and determining key issues like...
Read this BlogWhat Happens to Social Security and Other Benefits if You Divorce?
Post-DivorceDivorce usually means having to adjust to a new financial situation and budget. If you receive or planned to receive...
Read this BlogWhat to Do When You’re Boiling Over with Divorce-Related Rage
Divorce, Divorce mediation, Preparing for divorceIt’s normal to feel a sense of rage at one point or another in your divorce journey. You might feel...
Read this BlogTools and Resources to Teach You Mindfulness in the Context of your Divorce
Divorce, Divorce mediation, Preparing for divorceIf you’ve been following our blog series with family therapist and mindfulness teacher Joree Rose, you’ll have seen how mindfulness...
Read this BlogHow to Drill Down to Understand the Root Cause of Triggering Emotions
DivorceThe divorce journey can feel like walking through an emotional minefield–you never know what triggering emotions may cause an explosion…or...
Read this BlogHow to Avoid Taking Other People’s Words, Actions, and Emotions Personally
Divorce, Divorce mediationWhen going through a divorce, you might feel particularly sensitive about how others perceive you. As you make life-changing decisions...
Read this BlogBuilding a Mindfulness Practice When Life and Divorce Keep Getting in the Way
DivorceMany people recognize the value of taking a moment and a deep breath, and getting our emotions under control when...
Read this BlogHow Stress and Mindfulness Impact Your Body and Your Brain
DivorceYour heart beats faster. Your breath becomes short. Your muscles grow tense. When you’re stressed or anxious, your body goes...
Read this BlogCan Mediation Work if You Don’t Trust Your Spouse?
MediationIt’s a fair question. If your relationship was overflowing with trust, perhaps one or both of you wouldn’t want a...
Read this BlogThe Power Of Responding Proactively To Events In Your Divorce
DivorceDuring a divorce, it’s easy for emotions to get out of hand. Hurt, sadness, guilt, or fear can cause you...
Read this BlogThe Power of Naming Emotions: How Labeling Your Feelings Can Bring Peace
DivorceDivorce can feel like one emotional blow after another. First, there’s the pain of realizing that your marriage isn’t going...
Read this BlogA Crash Course in Negotiating from a Position of Strength for Those About to Head into Mediation
MediationMediation can seem like a daunting experience, especially if the relationship between you and the party you are negotiating with...
Read this BlogExplore the Power of Meditation and Mindfulness in Your Divorce
DivorceDivorce is one of life’s most stressful events, second only to the death of a spouse. Even if the split...
Read this BlogWhy is January Called Divorce Month?
DivorceMarie Claire Dorking says “Hold onto your wedding rings”, the first Monday back to work after the holiday season has...
Read this BlogKim Kardashian and Kayne West Divorce: Tips for Divorcing a Spouse with Bipolar Disorder
DivorceAfter months of speculation, it seems certain that celebrity couple Kim Kardashian and Kayne West are seeking a divorce. Like...
Read this BlogHow to Handle Custody if You and Your Ex Have Different Coronavirus Safety Rules?
Family CourtThe coronavirus pandemic has brought unique challenges to divorced and separated parents, especially when it comes to staying safe. Families...
Read this BlogShift #7: Shift On – Enjoy Your Life Do-Over After Divorce
Divorce, Divorce with childrenAs we said in the initial post of this series, divorce isn’t just an ending, but a beginning. Even if...
Read this BlogShift #6: Kids are Shifters Too – Helping Your Children Thrive Post-Divorce
DivorceBeing a parent adds an extra layer of emotional complexity to divorce. You have to grapple with your children’s feelings...
Read this BlogShift #4: Shift on Your Ex – Find Peace in Your Divorce
DivorceYou can find peace in your divorce. Our society often relishes tales of nastiness and pain. Gossip magazines feed off...
Read this BlogShift #5: Shift the Conversation – Help Loved Ones to Support You in Divorce
DivorceFriends and family can be a wonderful source of support and comfort when you divorce. But sometimes, their love and...
Read this BlogUsing Zoom and Online Tools to Make Child Custody Arrangement Work Better
Family CourtLearning to co-parent isn’t always easy after divorce or separation, but thanks to a range of new online tools, it...
Read this BlogThe Benefits of Being in a Blended Family
Family CourtIf step parenting sometimes feels thankless and impossible to get right, you’re not alone, and if you’re frustrated while trying...
Read this BlogIs a Stepparent Required to Pay Child Support?
Family CourtIt’s common for stepparents to assume a certain degree of financial responsibility for their stepchildren in a blended family. But...
Read this BlogWhat 13,000 Families Taught Jean McBride About Step-Parenting
Family CourtSometimes, step-parenting can feel like a lose-lose situation. Even with the best of intentions, there are so many factors that...
Read this BlogWhy Stepmoms Have Such a Bad Rap
Family CourtCreating a blended family and attempting to be a resource and a role model for a child who is not...
Read this BlogChris Voss and the FBI Approach to Divorce
Divorce, Divorce mediationWhen you’re looking up the most stressful jobs in the world, a hostage negotiator such as Chris Voss is right...
Read this BlogGiving Your Jerk Ex Enough but Not Too Much Space in Divorce
DivorceParenting Challenges During and After Divorce With nearly half of all marriages ending in divorce, it’s important to consider your...
Read this BlogStepping Back Before Re-engaging in Divorce
DivorceThe “Box Step” of Communication in Divorce “Dance is communication, and so the great challenge is to speak clearly, beautifully...
Read this BlogSteps to Save Your Kids in Divorce
DivorceSpecial Tips for Protecting your Kids During Divorce Reports on the effects of divorce on adult children find that “even...
Read this BlogParenting Smart Boundaries without Lies or Insults
DivorceSmart Boundaries: Keeping Children out of the Middle They say good fences make good neighbors. The truth is, good fences...
Read this BlogTreating Your Relationship with your Ex Like Work after Divorce
Post-DivorceParenting as a Business Relationship Post-Divorce “The more elaborate our means of communication, the less we communicate.” ― Joseph Priestley Divorce...
Read this BlogKids Playing Favorites in Divorce
Family CourtWhen Kids Are Playing Favorites in Divorce “Playing favorites” is an age-old pastime for toddlers through teenagers. It can be...
Read this BlogCo-Parenting When Your Ex is a Jerk
Family CourtJulie Ross: Co-Parenting with a Jerk Unlike marriage, parenting is for life. And what that means is that sometimes you’re...
Read this BlogSpiritual Guilt Post-Divorce
Post-DivorceDivorce isn’t “Wrong” Let’s agree to stop using “failed marriage” as a synonym for “divorce”. The decision to split does...
Read this BlogAnger Gets You Through Divorce
Collaborative Divorce, DivorceUsing Anger to Fuel Productivity in Divorce Divorce is a transition and that means that the emotions you feel at...
Read this BlogForgiveness After Divorce
DivorceGiving Yourself the Gift of Forgiveness “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” — Mahatma...
Read this BlogConflict: Finding The True You Through Divorce
DivorceConflict as Crucible: Finding Your True Self in Divorce This week I sat down with Anne-Louise DePalo and discussed how...
Read this BlogCollaborative Divorce is the Smart Choice
DivorceCollaborative Divorce: Capitalizing on Specialization for Better Results If you’ve been to the doctor recently and paused for a moment...
Read this BlogHappiness After Divorce
DivorceBecoming “Fully Alive” Through Divorce For some people it’s the first gray hair, the death of an old pet or...
Read this BlogThere’s No Such Thing As “One-Size-Fits-All” Divorce
DivorceAnne-Louise DePalo and the Danger of the “One-Size-Fits-All” Divorce Divorce is usually a costly affair. Separate from the emotional cost...
Read this BlogStaying Confident & Owning Your Look
DivorceStaying Confident & Owning Your Style in Post-Divorce Dating Divorce can be a confidence-shattering experience. You may feel ashamed. You...
Read this BlogPost-Divorce Make-Over – Dealing with Rejection
Post-DivorceDealing with Rejection Post-Divorce “Rejection is nothing more than a necessary step in the pursuit of success” – Bo Bennet...
Read this BlogPost-Divorce Online Dating
Post-DivorceGetting Out There! Misconceptions about Online Dating Online dating is no longer something out of the ordinary. Nearly 70% of US...
Read this BlogPost-Divorce Make-Over on a Budget
Post-DivorceRefurbishing Your Wardrobe on a Post-Divorce Budget They say you dress in the era you were happiest in. Unfortunately, if...
Read this BlogPost-Menopause Make-Over
DivorceGetting Out There! A Post-Divorce Body & Wardrobe Have you ever looked in the mirror and thought, “who is that?” It’s...
Read this BlogPost-Divorce Make-Over
Post-DivorceAlyssa Dineen: Self-Esteem and Dating Post-Divorce Divorce permeates every part of our lives, from where we live to how often...
Read this BlogTaking the Leap: Dates After Divorce
Post-DivorceHow to Know When You’re Ready to Date Post-Divorce Worrying about what to wear. Checking your hair for the 50th...
Read this BlogDeanna Coyle: “Do the Research” And Other Words of Wisdom
DivorceWe treat emotional recovery differently from physical recovery—or anything else in our lives, for that matter. You wouldn’t just walk...
Read this BlogWhen to Learn from Other People’s Experience—and When Not To
DivorceIn the dating world, there’s a relatively new term for an age-old practice of dating and disappearing: ghosting. It might...
Read this BlogVesta: A New Way to Create Community
DivorceA recent headline delivered some sobering and surprising news: Loneliness ‘Time Bomb’ Warning Fueled by Baby Boomer Divorces. The study...
Read this BlogYou’re Not In This Alone: The Empowering Force of Friendship During Divorce
DivorceWalk down the street and you’ll see people so lost in reading their phones that they almost step out into...
Read this BlogRecreating Yourself Post-Divorce
Post-DivorceRecreating Yourself Post-Divorce “Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.” ― J.K. Rowling Sometimes, the...
Read this BlogStriking Gold with Divorce Support
DivorceDeana Coyle, Founder of Vesta: From Isolation to Inspiration One of the biggest and most painful side-effects of divorce is...
Read this BlogThe Destructive Power of Isolation and How to Avoid It
Divorce“The worst cruelty that can be inflicted on a human being is isolation.” – Sukarno With busy schedules and a...
Read this BlogDividing High Net Worth Marital Assets When One Spouse Built a Successful Business
High Asset DivorceSpecial Divorce Challenges When One Spouse Built a Successful Business “Starting your own business isn’t just a job – it’s...
Read this BlogAll Divorces Are Basically the Same
High Asset DivorceWhat High Net Worth Splits Have in Common With all Divorces While high net worth divorces have their own special...
Read this BlogDeveloping an Analysis of Your Financial Needs During Your High Net Worth Divorce
High Asset DivorceSolving for Financial Peace with a Needs-Based Analysis “Wealth after all is a relative thing since he that has little and...
Read this BlogRamifications of a High Net Worth Divorce with Inherited Wealth
High Asset DivorceThe Source of Wealth in a High Net Worth Divorce: How This Can Complicate Your Divorce “It is a truth...
Read this BlogRamifications of Divorcing Out of a High Net Worth Family
High Asset DivorceThe Challenges of Divorcing Out of a High Net Worth Family “For I don’t care too much for money, for...
Read this BlogUnderstanding the Issues Unique to High Net Worth Divorce Can Empower You
High Asset DivorceEmpowering Yourself Through a High Net Worth Divorce A divorce is a divorce to some extent. But when a divorce...
Read this BlogLiza Caldwell and SAS for Women
DivorceLiza Caldwell and SAS for Women Divorce isn’t a decision about marriage. It’s a decision about who you are, what...
Read this BlogThe Toughest Divorce Cases
DivorceSpecial Challenges to Moving Through the Stages of Divorce “Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” –...
Read this BlogFinding Your Support System During Divorce
DivorceGetting Support Throughout the Four Stages of Divorce There’s a lot of talk in popular culture about “meeting friends where...
Read this BlogStage Four of Divorce: The New Normal
DivorceLiza Caldwell: Divorce Stage Four or the “New Normal” Catharsis is a beautiful emergence into purity that’s impossible without struggle. It’s...
Read this BlogStage Two of Divorce: Hitting the Trigger
DivorceLiza Caldwell: Divorce Stage Two or “Hitting the Trigger” Philosophers, scientists and theologians have long debated the psychology of how...
Read this BlogStage Three of Divorce: Something is Changing
DivorceLiza Caldwell: Divorce Stage Three or “Something Is Changing” In relay running, the third leg is often the wildcard. This is...
Read this BlogStage One of Divorce: Something is Wrong
DivorceLiza Caldwell: Divorce Stage One or “Something is Wrong” Awareness is a tricky thing. Philosophically speaking, it’s what makes humans...
Read this BlogThe Importance of Preparation According to Seth Godin
Divorce, Preparing for divorceFinishing Well: What We Can Learn from Seth Godin You need only watch the last minute of the Kentucky Derby...
Read this BlogFour Stages of Divorce with Liza Caldwell
DivorceLiza Caldwell: Stages of Divorce and How to Move Through Them The only constant in life is change. – Heraclitus...
Read this BlogMetacommunication: Strategies during Divorce
DivorceWhen we get divorced, our communication needs change like a passing storm. Sometimes we need to get rage out. Sometimes...
Read this BlogThe Hardest Conversations: Talking Divorce with Your Kids
Family CourtTalking About Divorce with the Kids: From Childhood to Adulthood According to a recent article in Science magazine, gossip and...
Read this BlogSave Yourself: Vital Psychotherapy During Divorce
DivorcePsychotherapy After Divorce: Why You Should Do It “If you ever find yourself in the wrong story, leave.” ― Mo Willems, Goldilocks and...
Read this BlogClinging to Core Values to Save Yourself During Divorce
DivorceIdentifying and Living by Your Core Values It doesn’t take long to realize that your children are watching everything you...
Read this BlogDivorce Expert Dr. Mark Banschick Defines the Children’s Bill of Rights to Prevent Mistreatment During Divorce
Family CourtA Child’s Bill of Rights One of the most compelling shifts this week’s guest has made in his work is...
Read this BlogPost-Divorce Behavior that Dismantles Precious Intergenerational Boundary
Post-DivorceProtecting Innocence & the Intergenerational Boundary So many issues swirl around before and during a divorce. You deal with questions...
Read this BlogBe Smart About Divorce and Creating Bi-Nuclear Families
Family CourtIntelligent Divorce and What’s so Smart About It Children of divorce experience a slew of side effects from poor grades,...
Read this BlogDivorce is a Threat to our Public Health
DivorceDivorce as Threat to Public Health With a divorce rate hovering around half of all marriages, it’s safe to say...
Read this BlogPsychologist Dr. Mark Banschick Shares Expertise Helping Children Survive Divorce
Family CourtDr. Mark Banschick: Parenting During Divorce You may have clear boundaries in mind that, you’ve always sworn, would be the point...
Read this BlogDivorce Expert Deborah Tannen: An Overview
DivorceCommunication is the classic double-edged sword. Not enough communication makes people’s desires, dislikes and fears mysterious and can lay a...
Read this BlogBeware the Greek Chorus!
DivorceIn classic drama, the Greek Chorus weighs in on opinions about the hero’s actions. It’s a group, but they speak as one....
Read this Blog“Wait. You’re Divorced?” Divorced Couples Working Together
Post-DivorceIf you’re in the throes of a divorce, the idea of working with your ex may seem outrageous. But what...
Read this BlogShort ‘n’ Sweet Blogs Teach Truisms About Divorce
DivorceThe Front Lines: Stories & Lessons from EmpoweredWomansDivorce.com There’s no way around it; divorce isn’t easy. We all lean on...
Read this BlogFighting Misinformation in the Decision to Divorce
DivorceWhen Women Must Consider When Contemplating Divorce Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim. ― Nora Ephron,...
Read this BlogDr. Jill Murray Dives into the Threats That Cause Paralyzing Fear in Divorce
DivorceBreaking out of Paralyzing Fear in Divorce “You’ll never see your children again.” “You’ll be destitute.” “I’m going to ruin...
Read this BlogFinancial Ruin for Women
DivorceWhen Marriage isn’t A Fair Financial Partnership The statistics have made headlines in recent years: women lose major earning potential...
Read this BlogUnderstanding the Head and the Heart: The Legal and Emotional Entanglement of Divorce
Divorce, Divorce mediationDivorce: The Intersection of the Legal and the Emotional Divorce rattles even the most confident person’s sense of herself. It’s...
Read this BlogCounterintuitive Lessons from Divorce
Collaborative DivorceThe cliché of divorce is the cheating husband, the destructive crazed ex wife who takes revenge—on your property, cars or...
Read this BlogDivorce Psychology and Legal Experts Dr. Murray and Dodge Dive Into The Hardest Divorce Issues
DivorceDivorce Dream Team: Dr. Jill Murray and Adam Dodge We all know our emotions can affect everything we do. We’re...
Read this BlogUsing Compassion to Heal Feelings of Guilt
Collaborative DivorceI recently sat down with Michael Schiesser and Neelama Eyres, Co-authors of Divorced with Love, and co-founders of Inner Journey Institute. As a divorced couple who co-parent their...
Read this BlogThe Danger of Blame & Guilt in Divorce
DivorceDivorce, in our culture, is seldom blameless. Even in “no-fault” cases, there’s always someone who didn’t do enough, let themselves...
Read this BlogThe Healing the Heart Protocol
DivorceI recently sat down with Michael Schiesser and Neelama Eyres, Co-authors of Divorced with Love, and co-founders of Inner Journey Institute. They write from the unique perspective...
Read this BlogDivorced with Love Part Two: Finding a Way Forward
Collaborative DivorceLast week I began a series of conversations with Michael Schiesser and Neelama Eyres, co-authors of Divorced with Love, and co-founders of Inner Journey Institute, an organization...
Read this BlogDivorced with Love Part One: A Unique (and Loving) Split
Collaborative DivorceA loving divorce—one that foregrounds dignity and compassion—may sound like a fantasy. We just don’t see that very often in...
Read this BlogYour Brain During Divorce: 5 Situations the Brain is Always Tracking
DivorceIn this post, we explore Dr. David Rock’s ideas about how the brain influences us during divorce and how we...
Read this BlogYour Brain During Divorce: Can you Change Another Person’s Behavior?
DivorceIn examining brain science, divorce, and negotiation with Dr. David Rock, we’ve tackled how the brain reacts to an emotional...
Read this BlogYour Brain During Divorce: How Timing & Goals Can Help Avoid Emotional Reactions
DivorceDr. David Rock, author of Your Brain at Work, has examined the relationship between emotion and your ability to think...
Read this BlogYour Brain During Divorce: What Gets in the Way of Rational Analysis?
DivorceWe’ve been speaking with Dr. David Rock, author of the bestseller Your Brain at Work. In this post, we discuss...
Read this BlogYour Brain During Divorce: How to Have Constructive Interactions During an Emotional Event
DivorceIn our series with Dr. David Rock, we’ve covered how our brain inextricably intertwines logic and emotion, which can make...
Read this BlogYour Brain During Divorce: Misconceptions About How the Brain Processes Emotions
DivorceIn this series of articles, we’ve been sharing the theories of Dr. David Rock, author of the bestseller, Your Brain...
Read this BlogYour Brain During Divorce: Why Is It So Hard to Avoid Reacting Emotionally?
DivorceIn this series, we’ve been speaking with Dr. David Rock, the director of The NeuroLeadership Institute, a global initiative bringing...
Read this BlogYour Brain During Divorce: How the Brain Influences Us
DivorceLook for the entire series of articles on our conversation with Dr. David Rock, author of the bestseller, Your Brain...
Read this BlogHabits for a Better and More Fulfilling Relationship
Collaborative DivorceSometimes it’s easier to criticize what a partner is doing wrong rather than focus on what’s right. It can become...
Read this BlogWhat to Expect in Collaborative Divorce: a Step-by-Step Guide
Collaborative Divorce, DivorceThe collaborative law approach to divorce promises a less-contentious and ultimately kinder, gentler way to dissolve a marriage. But what...
Read this BlogStuart Webb Interview Part Two: The Origin of Collaborative Divorce
Collaborative Divorce, DivorceI previously discussed the interview I did with Stuart Webb, creator of “collaborative law”. As a divorce litigator, Stuart saw many...
Read this BlogCollaborative Divorce: Assembling the Best Team
Collaborative Divorce, DivorceCollaborative divorce is a non-adversarial approach to ending a marriage and was created by Stuart Webb. The process is nothing like...
Read this BlogStuart Webb: The Origin of Collaborative Divorce
Collaborative Divorce, DivorceMore and more people are wondering, what is collaborative divorce? A simple Amazon search for books on “collaborative divorce” yields hundreds of...
Read this BlogSplitopia: Writing Exercises for Thriving After Divorce
DivorceWhen I spoke with Wendy Paris, author of Splitopia: Dispatches from Today’s Good Divorce and How to Part Well, she...
Read this BlogThriving After Divorce: the Case for It
DivorceIt can be easy to think of divorce as an “end”. We even use the terms “ended their marriage” or...
Read this BlogSelf-Empowering Habits That Stick
DivorceThe best way to grow self-empowerment, like anything, is to have it happen automatically, without having to think about it....
Read this BlogThe Secret to Finding Love Post-Divorce
Post-DivorceIn speaking with Wendy Paris, author of Splitopia: Dispatches from Today’s Good Divorce and How to Part Well, about what...
Read this BlogGetting Through Divorce with Self-Compassion and Mindfulness
DivorceIn our culture, it’s popular to practice tough love—with ourselves. We practice “self-discipline”, like to “push ourselves”, and build up...
Read this BlogWhat Conventional Wisdom Gets WRONG about Divorce
DivorceWith 40 to 50 percent of marriages ending in divorce in the US, many of us have first-hand experience with...
Read this BlogWhat Conventional Wisdom Gets RIGHT about Divorce
DivorceIf you’re starting down the road to divorce, you’re no doubt bombarded by advice—often full of clichés and predictable stereotypes....
Read this BlogThe Hard Lessons of 2018
DivorceAs the end of the year rolls around and the calendar gets thin, it’s time to reflect on the lessons...
Read this BlogCrafting a “Good Divorce” Against the Odds
DivorceImagining a happy marriage is easy. Just flip on the Hallmark Channel and you’ll see cozy homes, good health, stable...
Read this BlogNegative Misconceptions about Divorce in America
DivorceWhen spouses seek divorce today, they enjoy a level of freedom and flexibility that wasn’t available even a decade ago....
Read this BlogEnding Your Marriage: Coming to Terms with Being Hurt by an Affair
DivorceInfidelity is a leading cause of divorce. Whether the unfaithful spouse moves on to be with the new love interest...
Read this BlogCounterintuitive Ideas to Bear the Unbearable in Divorce
DivorceWhen you’re in the middle of a divorce, or even just considering one, life can get heavy. So heavy, in...
Read this BlogSurviving Divorce: Acceptance Does Not Equal Forgiveness
DivorceAcceptance does not equal forgiveness. Forgiveness, according to many, is key to liberating yourself from the feelings of resentment that...
Read this BlogResourceful (and Non-Resourceful) Strategies for Coping with Betrayal
DivorceWhen you’ve been betrayed by a spouse, it’s easy—and justifiable—to be angry. Our culture is full of songs, movies and...
Read this BlogForgiveness After Divorce: When and Why to Aim for It—and What It Really Takes
DivorceAccording to the American Psychological Associate, between 40 and 50 percent of marriages end in divorce. That statistic can fuel...
Read this BlogCommon Divorce Myths
DivorceDivorce is a difficult and highly emotional process for everyone involved. When you are going through a divorce, everyone around...
Read this BlogKatherine Miller Awarded with “The Best Lawyers in America”
In the NewsFamily law attorney Katherine Miller of Miller Law Group was recently honored with inclusion in the 25th edition of “The...
Read this BlogStart to Finish: Divorcing a High-Conflict Spouse
DivorceIn the last few posts, we’ve addressed some of the particular challenges of divorcing a high-conflict spouse. Since it may...
Read this BlogRespect and Empathy: Critical Components of Non-Adversarial Dispute Resolution
DivorceDigging deep within yourself to find empathy and understanding when you’re under attack can feel impossible. Why should you be...
Read this BlogProtecting Yourself in Mediation with High-Conflict Spouse
MediationDivorcing a high-conflict spouse understandably feels risky. You’re right to be nervous about entering the ring with someone who thrives...
Read this BlogUsing Collaborative Divorce with High-Conflict People
Collaborative DivorceCollaborative divorce is a negotiated divorce settlement, made without ever stepping foot in a courtroom. Each spouse has a lawyer,...
Read this BlogWhy a High-Conflict Divorce is NOT What You Need
DivorceWe all know somebody who has gone through a horrific divorce that has dragged out for years, drained both parties’...
Read this BlogHow Mediation Can Help Resolve Your Divorce
MediationMediation is a way for spouses to resolve their divorce outside the courtroom in a private, neutral, non-adversarial process. Families...
Read this BlogSuccessfully Navigating Mediation: Beyond the Myths and Misconceptions
MediationIn this series of posts, we’ve begun an in-depth conversation about divorce mediation—from the strategies that empower participants to reach...
Read this BlogFinding Happiness with Life Lessons Learned in Mediation
MediationOne of the most frustrating and disappointing thoughts about divorce is that it’s an un-doing, a move in reverse, when...
Read this BlogTax Law Changes Impact High Net Worth Divorces
Divorce, High Asset DivorceStatistically speaking, individuals in the United States who have more money do not divorce as often as those with less....
Read this BlogMediation of All Shapes and Sizes
MediationWhile divorce mediations have underlying human emotions that naturally surface in negotiations, the cases themselves are as varied as marriages—or...
Read this BlogUnderstanding New York Adoption
Family CourtAlmost anyone over the age of 18 can adopt a child under New York law, although some individuals who have...
Read this BlogDealing with Misunderstandings (and Other Hiccups) During Mediation
MediationUsing mediation to end a marriage empowers participants to communicate their desires without the limitations, public record and the formality...
Read this BlogDivorce and Your Family Business
DivorceSpouses who have operated a family business throughout their marriage face a particularly difficult situation when their marital relationship deteriorates....
Read this BlogChoosing an Attorney for Your Collaborative Divorce
Collaborative DivorceBefore choosing an attorney for your collaborative divorce, you should understand the collaborative divorce process. Instead of traditionally hostile and...
Read this BlogBoost Your Self-Care with 10 Inspirational Quotations
DivorceOn tough days—and there are always tough days—you may need a quick reminder that you’re on the right path with...
Read this BlogRedesigning Your Living Space After Divorce
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesIn this episode, Katherine Miller talks with Jodi Topitz, founder of We2Me, about designing or redesigning your space post divorce...
Read this BlogClarifying Your Needs in a Negotiation: the Power of the BATNA
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce, Divorce mediationYou feel vulnerable. You don’t totally trust the other party in a negotiation. What can you do to make the...
Read this BlogThings to Avoid During Divorce
DivorceGoing from being a married couple to being adversaries can be extremely difficult and emotionally draining. What can make matters...
Read this BlogCo-Parenting with a Hostile Ex-Partner
Family CourtIn a perfect world divorced parents would be able to put their feelings aside and be united in their efforts...
Read this BlogMaking Holidays Meaningful for Children After Divorce
Family CourtHolidays can be a wonderful time for families to create memories and traditions. When a family goes through a divorce,...
Read this BlogLegal Separation: Is it the Right Option for You?
Divorce, Preparing for divorceWhen you think of terms that relate to divorce, sometimes the phrase “legal separation” comes to mind. While many people...
Read this BlogFostering Harmony Between Your Children and Your New Partner
Family CourtAdapting to life after a divorce can be challenging to say the least. Parents and children are often confronted with...
Read this BlogDivorce and Social Security Benefits
Divorce, Divorce mediation, Preparing for divorceDivorce is never easy no matter what age a person may be. It is often a lengthy and challenging process...
Read this BlogInternational Custody Orders
Family CourtToday advances in technology and the globalization of the world marketplace have made it increasingly common for American citizens to...
Read this BlogCustody When Divorcing Parents Can’t Decide
Divorce with childrenWhat leads parents down that path? Are they to blame or is the system? Internally, are these people inherently flawed?...
Read this BlogThe Law: Does It Add to or Take Away from Divorce Negotiations?
MediationWhat is the role of the law in divorce negotiations? It’s actually a huge question and worthy of consideration, not...
Read this Blog4 Questions to Determine if Mediation is Right for You
Mediation{2:51 minutes to read} The decision to divorce initiates a series of many challenging and difficult decisions, often starting with:...
Read this BlogConsulting or Review Attorneys in Mediation – Part 2
Mediation{3:45 minutes to read} In my last article, I discussed the role of review attorneys in mediation. In this...
Read this BlogWhat is My Child’s Divorce Story?
Divorce{2:24 minutes to read} We all know that divorce is hard on kids. My clients truly worry about their children...
Read this BlogHaving a Proper Diet During Divorce
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesKatherine Miller talks with Dinah Barr Campanarro, a registered dietician nutritionist talk about what to eat and what not to...
Read this BlogCreating Strong Parenting Agreements
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesKatherine Miller speaks to Dr. Deanna Conklin-Danao about fashioning living parenting agreements that work over time. Dr. Conlun-Danao has been...
Read this BlogUse Your Divorce to Upgrade Your Life
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesPaul Ross went through a difficult divorce and used his experience and his business background to put together a 10...
Read this BlogThe Effects of Divorce on Children
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesKatherine Miller talks with Ellen Bruno, Producer, Director, Editor of Split, a compelling film that explores the effects of divorce...
Read this BlogSaving Your Marriage
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesKatherine Miller talks with Terry Real, internationally acclaimed family therapist, speaker and author, founder of the Relational Law Institute about...
Read this BlogConsulting or Review Attorneys in Mediation – Part 1
Mediation{6:00 minutes to read} It’s a really good idea for a divorcing couple in mediation to have a consulting or...
Read this BlogCan Lawyers Be Peacemakers?
Divorce, Divorce mediation{4:30 minutes to read} Oftentimes, in our modern culture, we think of lawyers as advocates, champions or warriors, but that...
Read this BlogInterview with J. Kim Wright on Integrative Law
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesKatherine Miller talks with J. Kim Wright pioneer in the field of integrative law about her experiences of divorce personally...
Read this BlogThe Power of Finding Solutions Together
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesKatherine Miller talks with Gary J. Friedman, co-founder of the Center for Understanding in Conflict, mediator, teacher and author, about...
Read this Blog3 Important Things to Look for in a Mediator
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce, Divorce mediation{3:30 minutes to read} You’re looking for a mediator? Below are 3 important things to look for in your search.
Read this BlogFinding Strength Through Compassion Instead of Blame
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesKatherine Miller talks with Dr. Steven Stosny, founder of Compassion Power, about the strength that divorcing people can find through...
Read this BlogCourt order allowing out-of-state parental relocation upheld on appeal
Divorce with childrenIn the decision of Karen Michelle F. v. Wilfredo C., the Appellate Division of the New York Supreme Court upheld...
Read this BlogHigh Conflict Couples and Resistance Towards Mediation
MediationRecently, I had an interview with Bill Eddy on my radio show Dialogue on Divorce. Bill discussed the changing path...
Read this BlogLawyers as Peacemakers
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesKatherine Miller talks with David Hoffman, Esq. about lawyers as peacemakers. Listen to the conversation about the strength and effectiveness...
Read this Blog3 Reasons to Be Nice to Your Spouse During Your Divorce
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{2:40 minutes to read} Reason #1: You catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar. You are never going...
Read this BlogMen, Women, Divorce, and Money
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesKatherine Miller talks with Michelle Smith Founder and CEO of Smith Financial Strategies Group based in NYC about men, women,...
Read this BlogThe Best Course of Action for High Conflict Couples
DivorceBill Eddy’s Approach Recently, I had an interview with Bill Eddy on my radio show Divorce Dialogues. Bill is a...
Read this BlogWho Do YOU Want to Be in Your Divorce?
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{3:30 minutes to read} Michele Lowrance, in her book The Good Karma Divorce, recommends finding and defining the person you want...
Read this BlogRedesigning Your Living Space After Divorce
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesKatherine Miller talks with Jodi Topitz, founder of We2Me, about designing or redesigning your space post divorce to jump start...
Read this BlogWhat a Good Divorce Is and How to Have One?
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesKatherine Miller talks with Wendy Paris about what is a good divorce and how to have one. Wendy Paris is...
Read this BlogShould I Mediate My Divorce?
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce[2:15 minutes to read} Should you mediate your divorce? People often wonder whether or not they should try to...
Read this BlogChildren and Divorce: After the Divorce
Post-DivorceIn the midst of a divorce, parents try very hard to avoid hurting their children more than they will be...
Read this BlogHow To Forgive
DivorceI recently conducted a radio interview (linked at the bottom of the post) with Janis Abrahms Spring, a board-certified clinical...
Read this BlogWhat to Do and What NOT to Do to Help Your Kids Thrive in Divorce
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesKatherine Miller talks with Dr. JoAnne Pedro-Carroll a clinical psychologist and an internationally recognized expert on parenting and divorce about...
Read this BlogKatherine Miller Published on Splitopia
In the NewsKatherine Miller, Attorney & Mediator, had an essay published on Splitopia, where she discussed how her own personal divorce changed...
Read this BlogChildren and Divorce: During the Divorce
Divorce with childrenIn the midst of a divorce, parents try very hard to avoid hurting their children more than they will be...
Read this BlogMaking Peace with Your Ex
Divorce mediationWhat does it mean to make peace with your ex? This is a tough question. When people feel their ex-spouse...
Read this BlogNational Divorce Month?
DivorceI got a call a couple of years ago from a local magazine. According to them, May was National Divorce...
Read this BlogThe Evolution of the Collaborative Process in New York
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesKatherine Miller talks with Sue Brunsting, Esq. about her experience of the evolution of the Collaborative Law process in NY.
Read this BlogThe Magic of Neutrality
MediationI have been a mediator for 25 years and in that time I have certainly heard amazing stories and I...
Read this BlogNo Winners in Divorce
DivorceThere are no winners in divorce. Statistically speaking, divorcing couples are overwhelmingly likely to settle their “case” before a judge...
Read this BlogHow Wealthy Couples Handle Divorce
In the NewsMost of us have heard about Angeline Jolie and Brad Pitt’s imminent, high-profile divorce. Many times these celebrity divorces play...
Read this BlogWhen Things Seem Impossible
DivorceSometimes when people in conflict are negotiating to try to find a solution they come to a point when things...
Read this BlogConflict Resolution: Change Your Perspective
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce mediationFind some objectivity in order to translate conflict into problem solving. I have an old and dear friend who I...
Read this BlogWhy Litigating May Not be the Choice for You
Divorce9 OUT OF 10 MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS RECOMMEND NOT LITIGATING FOR THEIR CLIENTS FACING DIVORCE Okay, I didn’t actually facilitate...
Read this BlogThe 4th Step on Your Road to Divorce
Collaborative Divorce, DivorceIn my last blog post, we talked about the first three steps to divorce: commit to a process; gather information...
Read this BlogDivorcing Mr. Mom
DivorceTraditional assumptions about gender roles in marriages may be weakening in today’s marriages but they are going strong in divorce....
Read this BlogHigh-Conflict Couples and Divorce Mediation
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesKatherine Miller talks with Bill Eddy about high conflict couples and divorce mediation. Bill says that mediation and Collaborative Law...
Read this BlogWhat I Wish People Learned About Marriage and Divorce in High School
DivorceWhen I was a little girl, I sometimes looked in the mirror and imagined who I might marry and what...
Read this BlogHappy or Right?
DivorceIn the Prologue to her book The Dance of Connection, Harriet Lerner, Ph.D. (http://www.harrietlerner.com/) writes of a story she had...
Read this BlogSurviving Divorce and Thriving
DivorceDivorce is a painful experience. People going through divorce feel vulnerable and they very often feel shame. Think about the...
Read this BlogWhen You’re Getting Divorced, Feelings Matter!
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{2:30 minutes to read} Of course, feelings matter! Despite this reality, the way divorce discussions are framed by the law...
Read this BlogWhat Makes a Divorce?
DivorceWhen you’re living together but plan on separating from your spouse, there really is no change in your legal status....
Read this BlogDignity in Conflict
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesKatherine interviews Dr. Donna Hicks, an expert on the role dignity takes in conflict situations, about how two parties in...
Read this BlogParenting During the Storm of a Divorce
Divorce with childrenWhether you have a tiny baby at home or three rambunctious, semiautonomous teenagers roaming the house, you need systems to...
Read this BlogThe First 3 Steps on Your Road to Divorce
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{5:40 minutes to read} I’m in the process of writing a book in which I outline seven steps to getting...
Read this BlogTaking Care of Yourself While Going Through a Divorce
DivorceDivorce can impact health and well being, increasing the risk of weight gain or loss, sleeplessness, cardiac issues, depression and...
Read this BlogTaking Back Control of Your Finances and Career After a Divorce
Post-DivorceDivorce can undermine your finances in ways that are both quite obvious and not so obvious. For instance, your tax...
Read this BlogRunning Your Life Around Divorce: Your Landscape of Commitments
DivorceDivorce creates temporary uncertainty. Human beings need stability to concentrate and be effective. Neuropsychological research has shown that short-term memory...
Read this BlogFAQs on Collaborative: Legal Separation vs. Divorce and High Net Worth Divorces
Collaborative DivorceCollaborative Divorce has many finer points that clients and students often ask about. These FAQs posts clarify some of these...
Read this BlogFAQs on Collaborative: How to Make Collaborative Sessions More Productive for You
Collaborative Divorce, DivorceCollaborative Divorce has many finer points that clients and students often ask about. These FAQs posts clarify some of these...
Read this BlogFAQs on Collaborative: How to Help Your Children Through Divorce
Collaborative DivorceCollaborative Divorce has many finer points that clients and students often ask about. These FAQs posts clarify some of these...
Read this BlogFAQs on Collaborative: Child Support
Collaborative DivorceCollaborative Divorce has many finer points that clients and students often ask about. These FAQs posts clarify some of these...
Read this BlogThe Impact of Substance Abuse in Divorce
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesKatherine Miller talks with Dr. Ray Griffin about the impact of substance abuse in divorce. Is Collaborative Law and/or mediation...
Read this BlogFAQs on Collaborative: Talking to your Children and Scheduling their Time
Collaborative DivorceCollaborative Divorce has many finer points that clients and students often ask about. These FAQs posts clarify some of these...
Read this BlogHow Can the 3 Levels of Conflict Improve Problem-Solving?
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{4:00 minutes to read} As part of the mediation training we teach at The Center for Understanding in Conflict, we...
Read this Blog8 Advantages to Mediation
MediationThere are a few non-traditional models of divorce that don’t force you and your spouse to drag your family into...
Read this BlogMediation or Collaboration: Which Approach Is Better?
MediationFor some divorcing couples, Collaboration works best. For some couples, Mediation is a much better fit. Only you have the...
Read this BlogGenerosity During Divorce
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesKatherine Miller talks with attorney, entrepreneur and single mom, Alexis Neely, about her epiphanies around her own divorce and the...
Read this BlogKatherine Miller Lecture with Mindy Utay Now Available
In the NewsIf you weren’t able to attend Katherine Miller’s lecture with Mindy Utay, you can now view it below.
Read this BlogInterest-Based Bargaining: How To Get What You Want (and Give What You Don’t)
DivorceDuring traditional negotiations, most people default to what’s known as “position-based” bargaining. Prior to meeting or early during the discussions,...
Read this BlogIs Divorce Court Dehumanizing?
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{2:30 minutes to read} Oftentimes, stereotypically, we think divorcing couples—both the person who decides to divorce and the person who...
Read this BlogThe Groundwork of Collaborative Divorce: Your “Participation Agreement” Guide
Preparing for divorceIf you and your spouse agree to work through your divorce using the collaborative framework, one of the first things...
Read this BlogAre You Jumping to Conclusions?
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{3:15 minutes to read} It’s a well-known fact that people living together for a long period of time take each...
Read this BlogPrenups with Mindy Utay
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesKatherine Miller talks with Mindy Utay, JD, LCSW Psychotherapist and Psychoanalyst about the emotional impact of negotiating prenuptial agreements and...
Read this BlogChild Abuse or Neglect Allegations and Divorce
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesKatherine Miller talks with Allison Williams about the impact of child abuse and neglect allegations in the context of divorce....
Read this BlogGoing Beyond Anxiety and Positional Thinking During a Divorce
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{3:31 minutes to read} When people are divorcing, they are often filled with intense anxiety. They feel compelled to solve...
Read this BlogThe Paradoxical Theory of Change: Can You Defy Expectations?
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{2:25 minutes to read} The paradoxical theory of change is an idea that comes out of Gestalt therapy. According to the...
Read this BlogDivorce and the New Social Security Rules
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesKatherine Miller talks with Gayle Lob about the NEW Social Security rules and how they impact divorced (and other) retirees.
Read this BlogModern Child-Centered Parenting Plans
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesKatherine Miller talks with Dr. Eric Frazer, co-founder of Child Custody Analytics, a unique online resource for lawyers that helps...
Read this Blog3 Dynamics That Will Destroy a Relationship
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{4:00 minutes to read} It is not unusual for married couples to develop unhealthy ways of settling disputes between them....
Read this BlogThe Emotional Journey of Divorce
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesKatherine talks with Shireen Meistrich about the emotional journey of divorce. What do people go through? What are some strategies...
Read this BlogWhy It’s So Important to Stay Out of Court
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesKatherine Miller talks with the Hon. Sondra Miller. Judge Miller spent decades on the bench and was commissioned by the...
Read this BlogListen to Our Divorce 101 Webinar
In the NewsDid you miss the first Divorce 101 Webinar? No problem! Click here to access the archive.
Read this BlogJoin Us for NY Divorce 101
In the NewsJoin us for a webinar on Apr 27, 2016 at 2:00 PM EDT. Register now! Are you thinking about divorce...
Read this BlogHow Facing Divorce as a Child Can Impact Your Life as an Adult
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesListen as Katherine Miller talks to an adult child of divorce about her experience of her parents’ divorce and how it...
Read this BlogCreating & Maintaining Calm During Conflict Resolution: Establish Process Groundwork Early On
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{3:20 minutes to read} Contrary to popular opinion, the fastest divorce is not necessarily the best. In order to successfully...
Read this BlogSpecial Guest: Stu Webb, the Father of Collaborative Law
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesKatherine Miller talks with Stu Webb about Collaborative Law. Stu was ready to leave the practice of law because he...
Read this BlogConfused, Scared, and Under Pressure Is No Way to Divorce
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{3:19 minutes to read} Toward the end of any negotiation, a flurry of activity swarms the lives of all the...
Read this BlogSilence the Greek Chorus: The Importance of Decreasing Anxiety & Increasing Trusted Advisors
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{3:00 minutes to read} It’s interesting to me that people, in general, offer up advice — some invited, most not...
Read this BlogWhat It Takes to Move on with Your Life
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesKatherine Miller talks with Janis Abrahms Spring about forgiveness, betrayal, infidelity, and what it takes to move on with your...
Read this BlogKatherine Miller Presents CLE Course on Collaborative Practice
In the NewsAttorney Katherine Miller recently presented a CLE (Continuing Legal Education) course on the Collaborative Law Practice. In this informative course,...
Read this BlogAn Open Letter to United Airlines: Stop Asking for TMI
Collaborative Divorce, DivorceOscar Munoz President and CEO United Airlines, Inc. PO Box 06649 Chicago, IL 60606-0649 Dear Mr. Munoz: I am writing...
Read this BlogThe Difference Between Mediation and Litigation
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesDo you wonder what it feels like to get divorced? Katherine Miller talks with “Barbara” about her experiences as a...
Read this BlogDepression and Divorce
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesKatherine Miller talks with Elana Katz, LCSW, LMFT about what to say and do for friends and family experiencing divorce....
Read this BlogChild Specialists in Collaborative Divorce
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesListen as Katherine Miller talks with Dr. Lauren Behrman about what the child specialist does in Collaborative Divorce and how it...
Read this BlogValentine’s Day: A Symbol of Love, or Marriage … or Both?
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{3:15 minutes to read} As the romanticized holiday of Valentine’s Day approaches, I took an informal survey amongst my colleagues,...
Read this BlogStop The Fight In Divorce
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesListen as Katherine talks with Michelle Brody, Ph.D. about what leads people to divorce and her new book Stop the Fighting.
Read this BlogDon’t Just Survive the Holidays, Enjoy Them! (A Pocket Guide for Divorcees)
Collaborative Divorce{4:00 minutes to read} The holidays are approaching and, in lieu of excitement, profound realization sets in for many newly...
Read this BlogThe Key to Successfully Working with High-Conflict Couples: Stick to the Basics!
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce{4:30 minutes to read} The heat is rising. Tension is mounting. A crossroad emerges in the mediation session, and it’s...
Read this BlogCaring for Aging Parents
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesListen as Katherine Miller talks with Barbara Newman Mannix about caring for aging parents.
Read this BlogThe Secret Language of Couples: What Lies Beneath the Words?
Divorce{3:00 minutes to read} Am I correct in understanding that this is what you meant? vs. Is THAT what you...
Read this BlogSocial Security Benefits and Divorce
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesListen as host Katherine Miller talks with Gayle Lob CFA CDFA about social security benefits and divorce. Curious or puzzled...
Read this BlogThe Role of the Attorney for Children in Contested Divorces
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesHost Katherine Miller talks with attorney Dawn Cardi about the role of the attorney for the child(ren) in contested divorces...
Read this Blog“I’m divorcing, what do I do first?”
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesListen as Katherine Miller talks with Melissa Goodstein, Esq. on pros and cons of mediation, Collaborative Law and litigation.
Read this BlogUsing Transparency In Your Practice: Be Present, Effective & Authentic
Divorce{3:35 minutes to read} Have you ever read a book that you found so incredibly helpful that you immediately had...
Read this BlogSurprise! People Using Ashley Madison Have No Intention of Divorcing
Divorce{2:10 minutes to read} As a divorce lawyer, I often hear people’s stories of infidelity, whether or not they are pursuing...
Read this BlogDealing with the Family Pet in Divorce
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesHost Katherine Miller talks with Debra Hamilton, author of “How to Use Mediation to Resolve Conflicts over Animals” about divorce...
Read this BlogReturning to Dating After Divorce
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesKatherine Miller talks with Laurie Davis, founder of eflirt and author of Love at First Click about returning to dating...
Read this BlogThe Magic of Neutrality Around Numbers for Divorcing People
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesListen as host, Katherine Miller, talks with Steve Kaplan about the magic of neutrality around numbers for divorcing people. Almost...
Read this BlogCollaborative Divorce and the Benefits of Working with a Member of NYACP
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesHost Katherine Miller talks with Abby Rosmarin Executive Director of the New York Association of Collaborative Professionals about Collaborative Divorce,...
Read this BlogCan Communicating Your Needs Save You from a Divorce?
Collaborative Divorce{3:40 minutes to read} As a divorce attorney, I am often asked: What leads people to divorce? Is it problems...
Read this BlogKnowing Your Divorce Options and Divorce Financial Planning
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesClick below to listen as Andy Samalin, president of ADFP and Westchester chapter leader of Second Saturday talks with Katherine about...
Read this BlogThe Art of Research: How Do You Choose Your Divorce Attorney?
Collaborative Divorce{3:20 minutes to read} I’ve noticed a contrast between the way people choose an attorney compared to how they may...
Read this BlogGoing Back to Work After Divorce
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesListen as Katherine talks with Ruth Beltran about going back to work after divorce.
Read this BlogRole of the Coach in Collaborative Divorce and a 12-Step Divorce Recovery Program
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesListen as Katherine talks to Micki McWade LCSW about the role of the coach in the Collaborative Divorce process and her 12...
Read this BlogWhat Leads People to Decide to Divorce?
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesListen as Katherine talks to Ann Jackler MSW, LCSW about what leads people to decide to divorce.
Read this BlogDon’t Make Things Worse: Four Tips for Effective Communication during Divorce
DivorceEven in the best of cases, going through a divorce is going to be difficult. There are a lot of...
Read this BlogThe Storm Out: What to Do When It Happens.
Collaborative Divorce{2:00 minutes to read} In my previous article, I wrote about the dynamics of what happens when a person storms...
Read this BlogDIVORCE ISN’T JUST ABOUT THE MONEY
Collaborative DivorceDivorce isn’t just about the money – yet the money represents many underlying issues related to the significant transition from...
Read this BlogHAPPINESS: 90% COMES FROM WITHIN
Preparing for divorce{2:30 minutes to read} Your own internal processing of your external world is what determines 90% of your happiness. This...
Read this Blog9 OUT OF 10 MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS RECOMMEND NOT LITIGATING FOR THEIR CLIENTS FACING DIVORCE
Collaborative DivorceOkay, I didn’t actually facilitate the survey, but if I did the statistics would probably be higher. Every mental health...
Read this BlogConflict: Are you Right or Wrong?
Collaborative Divorce{4:30 minutes to read} “If both people are right, why does it feel so wrong?” Conflict is hard; family conflict...
Read this BlogDOES HUMANITY HAVE A PLACE IN THE LAW?
DivorceShould the law support what is important to us in our lives or should we resolve conflicts based on case...
Read this BlogPUT ON YOUR GLASSES: CLARITY IS IN THE EYE OF THE DIVORCEE
DivorceWhen I graduated from college, I moved to Washington to live with my boyfriend. I decided it wasn’t going to...
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Family CourtWhat Fairy Tales Say Fairy Tales have taught us that stepmothers are harsh taskmasters and purveyors of poisoned apples. Truthfully,...
Read this BlogYOU’RE GOING TO SETTLE. BE CAREFUL WHEN YOU HIRE.
DivorceIn New York, 97% of divorce cases are settled before a judge makes a decision after a trial. That’s a...
Read this BlogLIFE AFTER DIVORCE – IT’S NOT SO SCARY
DivorcePeople’s stories are so incredible. Their lives are overflowing with drama, with poignant moments, with scary and wonderful things, with...
Read this BlogUNTANGLING THE “WHAT IFS” OF YOUR DIVORCE AGREEMENT
Collaborative DivorceOne of the things collaborative professionals and mediators do is help people think through all of the elements of the...
Read this BlogCUSTODY: WHEN DIVORCING PARENTS CAN’T DECIDE
ChildrenWhat leads parents down that path? Are they to blame, or is the system? Internally, are these people inherently flawed?...
Read this BlogGORILLAS DON’T MAKE GOOD LAWYERS
Collaborative DivorceClients often believe that when they hire a divorce attorney, they need someone to fight for them; to be tough;...
Read this BlogNAVIGATING THE COLLABORATIVE PROCESS
Collaborative DivorceSometimes people wonder how the interdisciplinary nature of the collaborative process works, and what role each of the professionals has...
Read this BlogWHAT IT MEANS TO BE A MEDIATOR
MediationThe Paradoxical Theory of Change says: That change occurs when one becomes what he is, not when he tries to...
Read this BlogWHO DOES COLLABORATIVE DIVORCE WORK FOR?
Collaborative DivorceMany couples going through a separation seem to think that because there is so much conflict in their relationship, a...
Read this BlogWHAT WILL YOUR DIVORCE STORY BE?
DivorceWhen going through a divorce, you have a unique opportunity to craft the rest of your life – to write...
Read this BlogSUPREME COURT STRIKES DOWN THE DEFENSE OF MARRIAGE ACT
DivorceToday was a big day for same-sex marriage. The Supreme Court issued its decision in a case called United States...
Read this BlogCalculating “Add-On” Child Support In New York: Educational Expenses
Family CourtThis blog entry is the final post in a six-part series on child support in New York State. The purpose...
Read this BlogRETIREMENT ASSETS & DIVORCE: AN INTERVIEW WITH SARA STANICH
DivorceA Divorce Resource interview with Sara Stanich, Certified Financial Planner and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst. Sara takes us through the...
Read this BlogCalculating “Add-On” Child Support In New York: Health-Related Expenses
Family CourtThis blog post is fifth in a six-part series on child support in New York State. The purpose of this...
Read this BlogCalculating “Add-On” Child Support in New York: Child Care Expenses
Family CourtThis blog post is fourth in a six-part series on child support in New York State. The purpose of this...
Read this BlogRETURNING TO WORK AFTER A DIVORCE: AN INTERVIEW WITH FERNE TRAEGER
Post-DivorceClick below to hear my interview with Ferne Traeger, Executive Coach, Psychoanalyst and Founder of Beyond the Boardroom, on the...
Read this BlogTHE VALUE OF NEUTRAL FINANCIAL PROFESSIONALS IN DIVORCE
Collaborative Divorce“It’s never just about the money.” That is a common phrase amongst professionals who work with people in conflict. Money...
Read this BlogCalculating The Basic Child Support Obligation In New York, Part II
Family CourtThe purpose of this series of blog posts is to guide you through the basics of calculating child support in...
Read this BlogWHEN THINGS SEEM IMPOSSIBLE
Collaborative DivorceSometimes when people in conflict are negotiating to try to find a solution they come to a point when things...
Read this BlogHow Does Child Support Work in New York?
Family CourtMost parents going through a separation or divorce, whether they’re in mediation, Collaborative Law or in a court-based litigation process,...
Read this BlogDivorced at Christmas
DivorceChristmas is often the hardest time for divorced parents. Especially for the newly separated, it can be agonizing to be...
Read this BlogFAMILY PETS IN DIVORCE
DivorceI am a dog lover. I have had dogs my entire adult life and I love them so it was...
Read this BlogNoting The End Of A Co-Parenting Relationship
Family CourtWhen I got divorced well over a decade ago, my children were both under the age of ten. My youngest...
Read this BlogProtecting Children In Divorce
Family CourtMy Story I had been a divorce litigator for 10 years when I faced divorce myself. At the time, I...
Read this BlogHOW TO CHOOSE A DIVORCE LAWYER
Collaborative DivorceHave you ever thought about how you choose a doctor, lawyer, therapist or even a dentist? Of course we all...
Read this BlogMindful Co-Parenting: An Introduction
Family CourtDivorce can cause a lot of sleepless nights. Worries about joint property and investments, co-owned businesses, not to mention peace,...
Read this BlogRuling Not Imputing Income To Mother For Child Support Upheld On Appeal
Divorce with childrenUnder New York law, if parents voluntarily reduce their income in order to lessen or avoid a child support obligation,...
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DivorceThe “Best Divorce Ever”…from a Child’s Perspective With the divorce rate hovering between 40 and 50 percent of marriages—and higher...
Read this BlogThe Long-Distance Divorce
DivorceThese days it is increasingly common for couples to decide to live separately without starting the divorce process. Over time,...
Read this BlogAll About QDROs
DivorceIf you are dividing retirement assets in your divorce, it’s critical to obtain a Qualified Domestic Relations Order (QDRO) before...
Read this BlogCommon Issues with Pensions During Divorce and How to Handle Them
DivorceA pension can be one of the most significant assets in a divorce. Even if only one spouse earned the...
Read this BlogThe Four Biggest Mistakes People Make in Divorce Settlements
DivorceFinancial matters are a concern among virtually all divorcing couples. Most people worry about how their lives will change on...
Read this BlogSteps To Lower Your High Child Support in New York
Child Support, Children in Divorce, Divorce, Divorce with childrenIf you’re a parent in New York struggling under the weight of high child support payments, you’re not alone. Throughout...
Read this BlogWHAT MATTERS MORE: EMPATHY VS. SYMPATHY?
Collaborative Divorce{3:30 minutes to read} I believe in understanding. So much so, that I work and teach in the “Understanding-Based Model”...
Read this BlogWhat to Do if Divorce Sets Off a Mental Health Crisis in You or Your Ex?
DivorceDivorce can bring on a host of emotions, from relief to frustration to bittersweet happiness. Sometimes these emotions can barrel...
Read this BlogMiserable on Paper: Finding Hidden Joy and Hope in Divorce
Divorce“The unhappy person resents it when you try to cheer him up, because that means he has to stop dwelling...
Read this BlogMental Health Issues and Divorce
DivorceGoing through a divorce is a trying process for everyone involved. When a partner in a relationship has a psychiatric...
Read this BlogDivorce Financial Disaster
DivorceWhen (if Ever) is “Cost-Effective Divorce” Possible? Imagine this scenario: after years of marriage, kids and a mortgage, a couple...
Read this BlogMoney Decisions During Divorce
Podcast: Divorce DialoguesKatherine Miller talks with Carole Epstein of Morgan Stanley about money decisions during divorce. We cover how to think about...
Read this BlogFinances in Divorce: Liabilities
High Asset DivorceThe other side of your finances in divorce is liabilities. Liabilities are the mortgages, home equity lines of credit, credit...
Read this BlogFinancial Transparency is the Best Solution During a High Net Worth Divorce
High Asset DivorceCreating the Ground Rules for Financial Transparency “Taking a thing apart is always faster than putting something together. This is...
Read this BlogCan Mediation and Collaborative Law Work for High-Net-Worth Divorces?
Collaborative DivorceThe other week, I attended an interesting talk on financial considerations for high-net-worth women going through a divorce. The talk...
Read this BlogCompelling Evidence That Collaborative Divorce Works
Collaborative Divorce, DivorceDivorce is inevitably an emotional journey, but it doesn’t have to be a hostile one. Collaborative divorce is a way...
Read this BlogYou Want a Prenup, Your Significant Other Does Not
Prenups & PostnupsYou love your partner and have confidence in your future marriage, but you think entering a prenuptial agreement is wise....
Read this BlogIt’s Spring, and the Prenups Are Blooming
Prenups & PostnupsBecause people tend to get married in summer, late winter and early spring are always prenup seasons, that’s why we...
Read this BlogWhen to Leave Your Marriage?
Preparing for divorceShould I get a divorce? If you’re asking that question, you’re far from alone. According to a national study, about...
Read this BlogFinances in Divorce: Assets
High Asset Divorce, Prenups & PostnupsRegarding the assets, it’s important to note that what’s included and excluded from the marital estate is not always clear....
Read this BlogGetting Married for the First Time in Your 40s: Why You Need a Prenuptial Agreement
Prenups & PostnupsIf you’re marrying for the first time in your 40s, entering a prenuptial agreement becomes especially important. You’re most likely...
Read this BlogParenting & Divorce: The Impacts of Divorce
Children, Children in Divorce, Family CourtI attended a great panel talk the other week on parenting through divorce. The talk was organized by Elise Pettus,...
Read this BlogParenting & Divorce: Typical Child Behaviors
Children, Children in Divorce, Family CourtI attended a great panel talk the other week on parenting through divorce. The talk was organized by Elise Pettus,...
Read this BlogParenting & Divorce: Tips For Parents
Children, Children in Divorce, Family CourtI attended a great panel talk the other week on parenting through divorce. The talk was organized by Elise Pettus,...
Read this BlogProperty Division During a New York and Connecticut Divorce
Divorce, High Asset DivorceMarriage is a financial partnership in which both spouses contribute to the whole rather than the individual. Regardless of what...
Read this BlogCan You Ask for a Prenup After You’ve Gotten Married?
Prenups & PostnupsBefore you married, you may not have given much thought to obtaining a prenup or didn’t understand the value of...
Read this BlogCalming Your Kids’ Anxieties About Splitting Time Over the Holidays
Children in Divorce, CoparentingThe holidays are a time of wonder and excitement for children. While parents do their best to keep this season...
Read this BlogShould I Wait To Divorce After The Holidays Or Do It Now?
Children in Divorce, Divorce, HolidaysThe festive season is upon us, a time of year when we gather with family and friends to share joy,...
Read this BlogDivorce and Your Estate Plan
DivorceWhen people marry they often make preparations which include taking out insurance policies, making health care and financial directives, drafting...
Read this BlogHolding On To Your Horses: Navigating Equine Assets in Divorce
Animals in Divorce, DivorceDivorce proceedings are complex and fraught with emotional and financial challenges, and when horses are part of the marital assets,...
Read this BlogTips On How To Survive Divorce During The Holiday Season
Divorce, HolidaysNavigating the holiday season amidst a divorce can feel like trying to dance gracefully on a tightrope — balancing emotions,...
Read this BlogFinding Your Voice: Strategies to Help You Speak Up for Yourself During Divorce Mediation
Collaborative Divorce, Divorce, Divorce mediationThe Miller Law Group is pleased to provide this guest post by Meghan Freed, Esq., co-founder of award-winning Connecticut divorce...
Read this BlogThanksgiving Challenge: Giving Thanks and Staying Positive
DivorceBy Joy A. Dryer, PhD. Giving thanks on Thanksgiving can be a challenge when you are divorced. You may be...
Read this BlogNewly Divorced Over the Holidays? Dos and Don’ts for Making Holiday Plans
Divorce with childrenThe first holiday season after a divorce can be difficult for everyone. Parents may find themselves taking on new responsibilities...
Read this BlogWhat to Do If Your Significant Other Refuses to Sign a Prenup
Prenups & PostnupsYou love your fiancé and have faith in your relationship. Yet, you know that if anything goes wrong in the...
Read this BlogWhat Will Get You “Cancelled” in Divorce? Don’t Do These 3 Divorce No-Nos.
Divorce, Divorce mediation, High Asset DivorceMaintaining a civil relationship with your spouse during divorce can be a real challenge, but it is worth it. Being...
Read this BlogUnderstanding ‘Stuckness’ in Marriage Through the Lens of Collaborative Divorce
Collaborative Divorce, DivorceBeing “stuck” in a marriage evokes an image of sinking slowly into quicksand. No matter how much you struggle, there’s...
Read this BlogNavigating the Path Together: The Power of Collaborative Divorce in 2023
Collaborative Divorce, DivorceDivorce has become an inevitable part of many journeys in the complex landscape of modern relationships. Exploring evolving approaches to...
Read this BlogWestchester Visitation Lawyer
Divorce, Preparing for divorceVisitation rights are one of the most critical issues for any couple going through a divorce. The initial divorce, child...
Read this BlogThe Intersection Of Estate Planning And Divorce
Divorce, Prenups & PostnupsThink through the impact of your divorce on your estate plan, so that the two pieces work seamlessly together, instead...
Read this BlogDivorce After a Long Marriage: How to Rebuild Your Life
DivorceYou stayed with your spouse far longer than you should have, but you‘ve finally pulled the plug and gotten divorced....
Read this BlogNew York Child Support Guide – Everything You Need To Know
Child Support, Children in Divorce, Family CourtMost parents going through a separation or divorce, whether in mediation, Collaborative Law, or court-based litigation, are aware that some...
Read this BlogWhat Is Divorce Coaching And How Can It Help?
DivorceHarriet Lerner writes in The Dance of Connection, “Perhaps nothing leaves us more vulnerable than the threat of relationship loss....
Read this Blog8 Advantages Of Collaborative Divorce
Collaborative DivorceOnce you know what defines the process, it’s important to know why you might want to choose it over more...
Read this BlogConflict Resolution: Change Your Perspective
Divorce, Divorce mediationFind some objectivity to translate conflict into problem-solving. I have a dear old friend who I value for her willingness...
Read this BlogParental Alienation: Everything You Need To Know
Children in Divorce, Divorce with children, Family CourtRecently I spoke to Charlie Jamison on my radio show, Divorce Dialogues. Charlie is a Board-certified Marital and Family Law...
Read this BlogPost-Divorce Dating Profiles That Work
Dating, Post-DivorceGetting Out There! Do’s and Don’ts of an Online Dating Profile With nearly 2,500 online dating sites in the US alone,...
Read this BlogMother And Daughter Relationship During Divorce
Children in Divorce, DivorceThe mother and daughter relationship is unique. There’s a special bond forged through a lifetime of advice, companionship, strength, and...
Read this BlogMindful Co-Parenting After Divorce: The 6 Keys
Children in Divorce, Coparenting, Divorce with children, Family CourtDivorce can cause a lot of sleepless nights. Worries about joint property and investments, co-owned businesses, not to mention peace,...
Read this BlogWe Are Thinking About Divorce, Can I Move Out?
Divorce, Preparing for divorceMove Out in Divorce “My wife wants me to move out.” We hear this sentence frequently. Oftentimes, the spouse says...
Read this BlogActions As Evidence: How Your Threats and Insults Can Cost you Custody
Custody, Divorce, Divorce with children, Family CourtActions As Evidence: Shifting Your Mindset in Divorce Divorce can be disorienting. Things you thought you knew about your spouse...
Read this BlogDivorce After An Affair
Adultery, DivorceI frequently meet with new clients shortly after they or their spouses have revealed or discovered an affair. This is...
Read this BlogTrue Empathy: What Feeling Another’s Pain Requires
Collaborative Divorce, Preparing for divorce“Empathy” is a popular—and often misused—term. What people usually mean when they talk about “having empathy” is “kindness” or perhaps...
Read this BlogThe Storm Out: What Is It, Why We Do It, What To Do
Collaborative Divorce, MediationWhat Is A Storm Out? Sometimes in divorce negotiations, whether in mediation or collaborative sessions, someone gets upset or feels...
Read this BlogDivorce When The Woman Is The Breadwinner
Divorce, High Asset DivorceDoes It Make A Difference If The Woman Is The Breadwinner? It’s human nature to want to call money “yours”...
Read this BlogThreats As Evidence In Divorce
DivorceThe Right Way to Deal with Legal Threats As Evidence In Divorce “I was never ruined but twice—once when I...
Read this BlogPROTECTING CHILDREN IN DIVORCE
Children in Divorce, Collaborative Divorce, DivorceI had been a divorce litigator for 10 years when I faced divorce myself. At the time, I was spending...
Read this BlogHow to Move on After Divorce
DivorcePeople in the process of divorce find themselves at the intersection of what was and what will be. That intersection...
Read this BlogReproductive Technology Law
Divorce, Reproductive TechnologyFamilies are built in a variety of wondrous ways. When your family-building journey involves assisted reproductive technology, surrogates, gestational carriers,...
Read this BlogWestchester Post Divorce Estate Planning Lawyer
Divorce, Post-Divorce, Preparing for divorceAfter a divorce, everything changes — even your estate planning needs. As part of finalizing matters and moving forward with...
Read this BlogCalculating Spousal Maintenance in Westchester
DivorceWhen a couple goes through a divorce, it can have a significant economic impact on both spouses, and it can...
Read this BlogDivorce Financial Planning
Collaborative DivorcePeople getting divorced generally do not want to destroy their lives. In fact, people who chose divorce often do so...
Read this BlogDos and Don’ts for Giving Gifts to Your Kids Over the Holidays After Divorce
Children in DivorceFor many parents, the best part of the holiday season is watching their children’s eyes light up as they tear...
Read this BlogChild Custody Decisions & Sports Safety
Children in Divorce, CoparentingDivorce and Co-parenting: Who Has the Final Say About Dangerous Sports? Co-parenting can be challenging under the best of circumstances....
Read this BlogCommon Surrogacy Agreement Mistakes
Children, Reproductive TechnologyBiggest Surrogacy Agreement Mistakes One of the biggest decisions you can make in life is adding to your family. And...
Read this BlogWhat New York’s Changes to Surrogacy Laws May Mean for Parents and Surrogates
Reproductive TechnologyThere are few things more joyful than a new baby. Whether you expand your family through pregnancy, adoption, assisted reproductive...
Read this BlogRecap: Interview with Divorce Expert Deborah Tannen
DivorceKatherine sat down with renowned professor, author and expert Dr. Deborah Tannen. She is the University Professor and Professor of Linguistics...
Read this BlogLove & Loss (and Divorce) Stories with Some Truth
Divorce“All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” ― Leo Tolstoy , Anna Karenina” Drama—in literature,...
Read this BlogThe Pleasure and Pitfalls of Sharing Divorce Talk with Sisters and Friends
Divorce“A sister can be seen as someone who is both ourselves and very much not ourselves—a special kind of double.”...
Read this BlogIdentifying—and Using—Your Conversational Style
DivorceIt’s fun to take online quizzes, learn our personality type, figure out what your true calling is, who your friends...
Read this BlogThe Value of Neutral Financial Professionals
Preparing for divorceIt’s never “just about the money.” That is a common phrase amongst professionals who work with people in conflict. Money...
Read this BlogWhy’s It SO HARD for People to Finish Divorce?
Divorce, Divorce mediation{5:00 minutes to read} One thing that is a very well known professional phenomenon is that, when people get toward...
Read this BlogHow a collaborative divorce can save couples money
DivorceOn behalf of Katherine Miller Non-adversarial approach can help avoid costly litigation Although collaborative divorce has been around for a...
Read this BlogA New Marriage Contract on Dignity
Preparing for divorceRecently, I had an interview with Donna Hicks on my radio show Divorce Dialogues. We discussed the importance of giving...
Read this BlogThe Vicious Cycle of Vulnerability
Preparing for divorceRecently, I had an interview with Donna Hicks on my radio show Divorce Dialogues. We discussed the importance of giving...
Read this BlogDignity in Divorce
Preparing for divorceRecently, I had an interview with Donna Hicks on my radio show Divorce Dialogues. Donna is a dignity expert who...
Read this BlogWhat it Takes to Divorce
Preparing for divorceI recently conducted a radio interview (linked at the bottom of the post) with Janis Abrahms Spring, a board-certified clinical...
Read this BlogPicking Your Lawyer and Picking Who You Want To Be in Divorce
Preparing for divorceMy best advice from years in the courtroom–as well as years in Collaborative and Mediation conference rooms–is that people should...
Read this BlogThinking About Divorce? Some Questions to Ask Yourself First
Preparing for divorceIf you are facing or considering divorce, you’re likely contending with powerful emotions that flicker in intensity. One minute you...
Read this BlogCultivating Emotional Intelligence: Not Me vs. You but Me and You
DivorceIntense emotional conflict often fuels the problems that lead to divorce, and divorce itself challenges even the most emotionally even-keeled...
Read this BlogYOUR DIVORCE DOES NOT DEFINE YOU
Collaborative DivorceEven when we are hurt, angry, sad and confused many of us try to find an honest and authentic voice...
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